u/Bees_on_property

A friend dropped off their cat two days ago, and since then, he has not eaten.

Additional info: he's about 2 years old, and very overweight.

He doesn't hide, he's enjoying pets without issue, we've played and he is behaving totally normally otherwise.

But he simply. will. not. eat.

I feel like I've tried absolutely everything. Dry food, wet food, dry treats, liquid treats, half-dried treats.

Yes, both the same brands he gets at home and what else i had available. I've even offered him cheese.

I tried heating food up and I tried sprinkling things on top.

I tried leaving food out, I've tried putting food away for some time, to see if he would get excited if it was unavailable for a while.

I've put the bowls every and anywhere I could.

I've tried to spend time with him and I've tried to leave him alone.

I'm completely lost. Please help, I don't want this cat to fucking starve on my watch.

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Und wenn ihrs grauslich findet...jo eh, hoids bitte afoch de goschn.

I'll try to keep the more complicated relationship aspects brief.

I have a long time friend we'll call Dave. Dave has been dating Susan for a couple years now and She and I immediately fell in platonic love. She has grown to be one of my closest friends and Dave and I'm relationship has sort of dwindled a bit in the last year or so.

I went to their house a couple days ago and the way he talked to her made me deeply uncomfortable and anxious. It felt like he was being unnecessarily critical/snarky and belittling her (and me a little bit as well) Since then, I've felt anxious and uncomfortable and frankly somewhat afraid of him, or of my own reactions.

Due to my experience in my first relationship where I was being emotionally abused for years (I was 14 he was 21 when we started "dating") I feel like I sometimes have a hard time telling abuse apart from legitimate criticism or someone just being snarky. It can all feel like everything, sometimes clearly abusive behavior doesn't register that way because I got so used to it, and sometimes light teasing can make be deeply triggering.

I don't know how to deal with this, I haven't experienced a trigger like this in years, it's honestly kind of debilitating because I never expected something outside of my own relationship to affect me in this way.

What do I do with this? How do I deal with this emotion?

Any advice is appreciated.