u/Beginning-Map8865

my husbands sleeping habits are starting to become slightly irritating.

we’ve been married 10 years and it was always a joke that he can fall asleep anywhere, anytime. but as the years have gone on, it’s just became slightly irritating.

when he comes home from work he can barely keep his eyes open. Yesterday he was feeding our daughter her dinner and started falling asleep at the high chair. Today he was holding her while watching TV and started to fall asleep.

he has zero energy when he gets home, and I feel like it’s impacting his relationship with our daughter. He’s just too tired to be a dad that plays and is active.

he has had blood tests and they came back as normal, and he’s definitely going to bed early enough. I’m at a loss.

My husband is an alcoholic & in SF and he’s basically ruining my life. I need to speak to my PCM at the med group on base to get my doseage put up on my SSRI’s so I can cope - if I tell them the reason I want my dosage increased will they report him? I don’t want my life to get even worse by him blaming any backlash on me.

I was really sick last week, but still had to get up and take the kids to school, cook meals, feed our dog. you get it, I still had to keep the ship running.

I'm better now, but my husband has caught whatever I had. he has COMPLETELY checked out from day to day life and has just laid in bed watching YouTube videos and groaning to prove he’s sick whenever someone is around to hear it.

It’s bugging me really bad that I would never have the option to just lay in bed for two days straight, it just wouldn’t happen.

*this is going to be an unpopular opinion, I‘m just speaking into the void and if you have a really hard time with other people having opinions that don’t mirror your own please don’t read further 🥰*

I graduated from SNHU for a BA and besides my husband and my mom, I haven’t really told anyone because I’m embarrassed that I graduated at SNHU. I started to feel a little unsure about everything at the start of my degree when I was in introductory classes, and people would say the most hilarious things in their discussion posts (personal favorite - “I don’t think I really believe in global warming because it’s always cold where I live”), or just being so unprofessional when introducing themselves at the start of their discussion posts (like how they are recently divorced and why they divorced). Then the final nail in the coffin for me was joining the Facebook group, and just seeing again the amount of students who just said the most ridiculous things. I’m not saying it’s right, or that I’m justified in my feelings - but I just feel embarrassed about graduating from here.

looking for some advice on how best to handle this situation…

the hierachy is regional manager, MY manager & then me.

The regional manager will always ask my manager to tell me to complete tasks, projects etc. My manager has terrible management skills & is so overwhelmed and stressed in her own job, so she forgets to tell me about it.

I’m assuming what is happening is that the regional manager is asking my manager “why has (me) not completed that task we asked her to do?” and then my manager is claiming that she DID tell me to complete it and I haven’t. I’m assuming she gets nervous that she will be in trouble for not relaying information.

Theres been a couple of occasions now where I’ve been tagged into emails asking why haven’t I done something I was asked to do, or in my yearly review I’m marked as “not meeting expectations” for projects and goals I was never actually assigned. I defend myself and say this is the first I’m hearing of it, but my manager and the regional manager are extremely close, so she believes my manager when she says that she did assign me the tasks.

My manager claims I’m using “you never told me to do that” as a defense for my poor work performance. I’ve asked if she can start putting tasks and assignments in writing but I’ve been told this isn’t an effective use of time.

Unsure what to do here?