Does anyone else feel like neurodivergent sexuality is only ever talked about as a problem to fix?
Hello, hello there...
We're a neurodivergent couple, both somewhere on the spectrum of ADHD and autism, and we've been on a really meaningful journey together. We do therapy, we communicate a lot, and over time we've realized that we experience love, sex, and desire in ways that feel genuinely different from what we see represented most places.
We've spent a lot of time online looking for people talking openly about this, not just the struggles (though those are real), but the actual texture of it. How desire actually feels for us. How intimacy works when your nervous system is wired the way ours are. The beautiful, weird, intense, sometimes overwhelming way we connect.
We found tons of content about the difficulties. Sensory issues, communication breakdowns, rejection sensitivity. All valid . we live that too. But almost nothing about how it actually *works* when it works. The hyperfocus that turns into deep devotion. The way we can feel things so intensely it almost doesn't have words. The intimacy that comes from two people who've had to learn themselves so carefully.
So we're thinking about creating a space, we have a page on FetLife and we're considering an OnlyFans, specifically dedicated to this. Honest, real, sometimes explicit conversations and content about neurodivergent sex, love, and desire from the inside.
Before we go further, we wanted to ask the community
**is this something you'd find valuable? Is this a conversation you've been looking for?**
What do you think?