u/Beginning-Night-3517

as per title - have been very unhappy, sad even for the past few months. constantly up late (to my health + relationships detriment) trying to finish work in hopes of a promotion, only to be constantly berated by management. The new boss who came in has no reprieve but the team seems ok w the new rhythm.

I absolutely know this is the DUMBEST decision I can make, but I choose myself and I cannot see myself suffer another 6 months, if I need to consider rotation. I have around 2 years buffer thanks to bonus but I intend to start looking immediately. My skillsets are rather generic - writing, managing stakeholders, delivering projects but realising am maybe not so good at managing bosses (ya I know everywhere also need to manage so u tell me this also no use). I also pivoted once in my career alr and going from very good recent ratings (up for potential promotion) to nothingness (cannot stand new management) in the next few months makes it all v pitiful - but anyone with any advice who gone against the grain and still made it thru, and possibly what sectors / roles may be suitable, will be helpful. Thanks a lot folks.

Financial commitments: housing loan about 1.2K/month with CPF, to also pay parents allowance & insurance costs + special occasion meals, which I have buffered - but I cannot stop working in case of any mishaps cuz they’re old. DINK. 7 YOE.

close to 4 years in the role. offered a new opp in Y2, been at new role for 2 years. had good appraisals and was expected to be promoted, but was not. currently been tasked with a high visibility project that signals intention for promotion. however have been putting long hours at work since last year, management have gone thru changes, there’s a few reporting lines and generally team feels overworked (the good ones get more).

personally don’t have a high self esteem now and feeling extra down when kena from bosses. middle management not strong either and we also know how bad finding a new job is now. so feel very trapped, no life but eat work and pretend w colleagues it’s ok. internally a bit numb, sad and see there’s no end. thinking about this makes me feel trapped, sad. need to mentally chiong for another year to attempt at promotion but currently overworked, underappreciated and people have been doing better than me without trying.

personally perhaps I need to be smarter at doing work, interfacing with bosses but am honestly tired, don’t see my strengths anymore cuz everyone is better and when I end work, I doom scroll so bad to escape the reality. My only respite is the weekends, and even then “work is coming” pops up so often in my mind. I technically have some buffer to quit if I wanted but family worries and financial support is poor, so rather not.

genuine advice only. if u tell me at least i have a job / everywhere also sucks type of advice, it does not help. thanks