It's been 110 days, but it still causes pain to think about how he emailed me
I'm hope someone can relate. He and I had many highs and lows in a stormy three years. Toward the end, I had "lost it" by expressing his typical behavior of disappear for three days when we had a plan was not alright. He used that as leverage to break up and said he felt upset, I was often "unsupportive," and "bad for his mental health," but when I analyze it, it's normal to ask for a woman to ask for her needs. So, for my calling him out, once in 3 years, then he proceeded to break up, through an email the next night. I accepted it and said, "okay, bye!" I packed his stuff and never mailed it, but sent him a letter of my own outlining the reasons I will never diminish myself for another person, again and I would not chase him again. I've kept my promise to myself.
Sadly, there are times when i get angry in my mind for his shifting the blame to me instead of trying to work through it like a grown adult.