I’m 22f Pakistani Canadian. I’m currently in Pakistan and my parents are pressuring me into a marriage. The guy is from Ireland so I would need to leave my family and relocate there which is making me anxious. I’m also 4’10 and he looks about 5’10 so I feel we have too much of a height difference. I have never met him in person but he’s an engineer. I’m getting extremely anxious because my parents saying I need to do a nikkah when he gets here and I want to do an engagement. A nikkah is giving me extreme anxiety. My parents are saying he’s not going to come here just for an engagement and that they break off all the time. I like that he travels a lot and has a good job but he’s older than me (30) and so I feel hes going to make me have kids too early and I don’t want any the first 1-3 years of marriage. Also he was raised in paksitan so he won’t be able to speak English well like me. I already rejected another rishta so if I reject him my parents won’t allow it. They said I have to do nikkah or they won’t let me go to canada. The mother of the first rishta I rejected hates our family now and if I reject this guy everyone’s going to talk badly about me especially for making him come to pk. I like a lot of qualities about him but there’s some he’s lacking too but my parents are saying I’ll never find someone better. Desperately need advice.
I’m 22f Pakistani Canadian. I’m currently in Pakistan and my parents are pressuring me into a marriage. The guy is from Ireland so I would need to leave my family and relocate there which is making me anxious. I’m also 4’10 and he looks about 5’10 so I feel we have too much of a height difference. I have never met him in person but he’s an engineer. I’m getting extremely anxious because my parents saying I need to do a nikkah when he gets here and I want to do an engagement. A nikkah is giving me extreme anxiety. My parents are saying he’s not going to come here just for an engagement and that they break off all the time. I like that he travels a lot and has a good job but he’s older than me (30) and so I feel hes going to make me have kids too early and I don’t want any the first 1-3 years of marriage. Also he was raised in paksitan so he won’t be able to speak English well like me. I already rejected another rishta so if I reject him my parents won’t allow it. They said I have to do nikkah or they won’t let me go to canada. The mother of the first rishta I rejected hates our family now and if I reject this guy everyone’s going to talk badly about me especially for making him come to pk. I like a lot of qualities about him but there’s some he’s lacking too but my parents are saying I’ll never find someone better. Desperately need advice.