u/Bellybean98

once in a while I grow so upset with where I am at. I noticed I can never find peace at work. im the only women, I work with a lot of people around my age and im the loneliest one there because people don’t want it to be misconstrued that they are giving me attention or texting me outside of work. when I do well people get pissy and claim it’s only praise because of me being a women doing the bare minimum, when I don’t excel people are not surprised or get the “you’re just not strong enough for this job”. once a week I get called into a meeting about how someone said something that may have “upset me” and almost everytime I wasn’t even there to hear it. I’ve noticed often people also used me as ammo to get someone else in trouble they don’t like, or people are talking amongst themselves and don’t want to get caught so they bring it up before it “gets to me”. Not only had my laundry bin had to become locked up from people smelling it, the inability to simply “be” makes my job genuinely harder. I’m very new into the field so I’m trying so hard to get my bearings but the weekly “are you being treated right” meetings are starting to get to me. Never once have I addressed what I am dealing with because I know addressing it makes it sometimes worse. lm trying to just thicken my skin but some days after 2 meetings in one day about people saying inappropriate things about me and some jack ass saying ”she needs help cause she dont know what she’s doing” when I’ve been doing the same job for months fine makes you want to crash out lol. I plan to be here for atleast another year for experience but man. I’m going crazy some days.. anyone else feel like it’s a constant battle or just trying to be?

I just started working as an auxiliary operator in a waste to energy plant. I have super thick long hair that goes past my butt and I’ve noticed that two buns fit outside the hard hat well, one bun wont fit at all. I’m trying to teach myself how to braid for a crown so I can put a cap on and not worry…

but in general..

what heat protectant/ masks etc do you use for the intensive dry heat?

are there any hairstyles I can do to salvage my nice hair before I ruin it?

hi! I just recently got my 2nd firemans license in MA. I have two auxiliary operator job offers already willing to take me on without any field experience:

1. NRG: contract work at different sites, starting at a small plant, with minimum work load for $26/hr (12 hour nights)
2. Reworld: a trash plant, extremely hands on, rats and a lot more responsibility for $39/hr. (12 hours rotating)

money wise, reworld is the easy choice, however I’ve heard such great things about working for NRG. I am a woman and it was disclosed I’d be the only woman on site at both locations, I was told I may get some slack at reworld due to this but I’ve worked in warehouse and electropolishing and learned it’s best to keep your head down when that happens.

since I am new to the field I don’t want to burn any bridges or damage my perspective on the field either, any advice will help.

The situation is exactly what it says. I met up with someone I use to see/sleep with (we both are 27). I don’t recall my having my period in the past but he was also super chill with me being on it currently as I gave him the heads up. I was at the end of my week so I thought why not, I also hadn’t had sex in years so even more so.. why not with someone I trusted..

half way through he noticed im bleeding a lot now. I immediately ask if he wants to stop because im even a little freaked by how much. we stop and I proceed to profusely apologize. however, his entire demeanor changes. He stops talking to me, leaves me on the bed to hold myself and I feel so vulnerable. I keep apologizing but I can tell he is over it all.

as we leave I ask if I will see him again and he tells me to just text him that I got home. I never felt more humiliated, shamed and embarassed. I am also planning a doctors appt because the intense bleeding and clotting hasnt subsided, and I’m supposed to be off my period the following day of this encounter. The sex was super rough so I’m curious if he did something by accident. I am very upset because i definitely liked this guy a lot but even more upset over how humiliated i felt and being ghosted due to something i can’t control or improve myself on. Is this common? I have had another partner who didn’t care at all but I’ve never had someone act like I was the most vile thing on the planet.

i don’t know what else I could’ve done I gave him the heads up, I apologized and offered to help clean anything up. He REALLY seemed to like me for years until this moment. Any support or advice is needed, I’m really distraught over this.