Mom doesn’t want me to speak with Dad’s side
My (early to mid 20s M) paternal grandparents occasionally call me, however my mother has forbid me from picking up or calling them back. According to her they and my other paternal relatives mistreated her when they all lived together (common Desi story unfortunately) and never considered her as their daughter or as part of the family despite it being an arranged marriage. My father disagrees and says her accounts are over exaggerated or at the very least the past is the past and she needs to move on. I speak to my maternal grandparents over the phone very often and have a good relationship with them, so I feel bad for my father that I don’t speak to his parents and can see it on his face. Additionally his parents are getting close to or just got into their 80s so I also feel guilty because they are getting really old. I have been stuck in this struggle for my whole life and especially of the last 5 years and it’s eating away at me.
Do I speak to them or not?
I respect my mother and what she has gone through and some recollection of what she went through (I was really young so it’s just snippets of memories), but at the same time I feel bad