u/Beneficial-Guess-164

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My dog just died. I've never grieved a living thing like this before. Just want to vent.

I'm not really sure if I'll keep this up or check back because I feel like how my brain wants to handle this changes by the minute so fast it's giving me whiplash. One second it's like nothing's real and I'm looking through a TV screen (normal stress response for me, dissociation is my go-to) and the next I can't stop sobbing.

He was 12 and a half. It was a gastric volvulus. I always thought he'd die of old age where there'd be signs, like he'd slow down, but he was fine until last night and this morning he was worse and we had to rush him to the emergency vet.

I'm 24. I have some memory issues, some from health conditions, a lot from trauma. I don't recall my childhood very well. We got him as a puppy. I feel like I barely remember existing without him.

I've had migraine attacks almost daily, most of the day, for the past month, so I haven't really been hanging out or playing with him as much. I thought there'd be more time.

We put him to sleep because there was nothing they could do. I wasn't ready to leave him yet even though he was gone. I held him during the injection and I wanted to keep holding him because I knew he was dead but he wasn't to me. He didn't feel dead and I just wanted to stay there, but my parents drove, and they were grieving in their own way and had stayed long enough, and they wanted to go. But I wish I got to hold him longer. I don't know if it could've ever been enough, though.

Can't go in the kitchen without breaking down crying because his treats and food are there. Can't move them yet because I just feel like I'm not allowed to and it would be wrong for reasons I can't articulate.

That's it, I think. That's most of what's going through my head right now. I'm scared the physical pain I've been going through will get worse from the stress but that's taken a backseat to how overwhelmingly sad or numb I feel at any given moment. I miss him so much already. I need to go to bed soon because I've been up all night and I'm dreading waking up and remembering that he's gone all over again.

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u/Beneficial-Guess-164 — 4 days ago

Can someone please tell me it can end

I know nobody knows for sure but I'm spiralling really bad and I just need some hope. It's been 26 days in a row and the attacks are only getting worse. I can't take anything because if it's not MOH, I'm definitely at risk of it with how much I've medicated with triptans and aspirin. I can't sleep it off because the pressure on my head makes it worse and elevating doesn't relieve it enough. Even when it's not at its peak it never fully goes away.

I feel dramatic, but I miss who I was three weeks ago. I've never had a flare like this. I'm so scared and I want my life back. My neuro is supposed to be prescribing me something, but even then, it'll be at least Monday, and I'm afraid that it'll come back, or whatever medication he gives me will do bad things to me or make it worse. I'm just so tired. I don't know what to do. I just want someone to tell me it can get better

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u/Beneficial-Guess-164 — 7 days ago