u/Beneficial-Office547

I WFH with my husband and almost 2 year old. We've been experiencing a massive heat wave where we live and going outside to play is dangerous right now.

I wfh full time with a 20 month old. Pediatrician recommends no tv till two. I told her its either tv or I lose my job and we become homeless. She shrugged and said "sometimes you gotta pick the lesser of two evils". Tv is on pretty much all day but its super simple songs. Not ms Rachel or paw patrol (only sometimes if I have to get on a call) but im curious what you all are doing

Why does it seem like everyone else is more cautious with my kid than I am?

I dont know really how to explain this but here goes.

I've been feeling some type of way about how cautious and "helicoptery" people are with my 20mo daughter. Some examples:

My mom has a slide with steps that's, literally, 6 inches tall. I think its for small babies. I let her take some steps up and down and she tripped going down and fell in the grass. No tears just an aggravated grunt. My mom freaked out and was pissed I just let her fall down.

When my the family goes on walks I typically let her run a foot away from me ( in super familiar areas) and my husband hovers over her constantly.

We had friends over and our living room is severely babyproofed. We let her roam free and my friends hovered over her acting like she was going hurt herself every step she took or worried she would get into something she wasn't supposed to.

We went to a friend's for a play date. The amount of time my friend and I actually talked to eachother was 0 because she was hovering over her own kid acting like she was going to stab my kid in the eye with a Crayola crayon or something.

I dont know if this is just a series of coincidences but its been making me feel like these people think I cant take care of my own kid. Like im sorry I'm not a helicopter with her like if she trips on carpet or grass I'm not going to run screaming to make sure she didn't break a bone. Im gonna do a shake it off dance so I dont freak her out and teach her its scary and bad to fall down.

I dont know really how to explain this but here goes.

I've been feeling some type of way about how cautious and "helicoptery" people are with my 20mo daughter. Some examples:

My mom has a slide with steps that's, literally, 6 inches tall. I think its for small babies. I let her take some steps up and down and she tripped going down and fell in the grass. No tears just an aggravated grunt. My mom freaked out and was pissed I just let her fall down.

When my the family goes on walks I typically let her run a foot away from me ( in super familiar areas) and my husband hovers over her constantly.

We had friends over and our living room is severely babyproofed. We let her roam free and my friends hovered over her acting like she was going hurt herself every step she took or worried she would get into something she wasn't supposed to.

We went to a friend's for a play date. The amount of time my friend and I actually talked to eachother was 0 because she was hovering over her own kid acting like she was going to stab my kid in the eye with a Crayola crayon or something.

I dont know if this is just a series of coincidences but its been making me feel like these people think I cant take care of my own kid. Like im sorry I'm not a helicopter with her like if she trips on carpet or grass I'm not going to run screaming to make sure she didn't break a bone. Im gonna do a shake it off dance so I dont freak her out and teach her its scary and bad to fall down.

Im a WFH mom with my 20 month old. My parents watch her twice a week for my online meetings. Im struggling a lot with the following:

Is she getting enough socialization

Am i interacting with her enough

Is she getting too much screen time (I know the answer to this is yes but dont come at me)

Am i there for her enough

Is it okay i don't have the energy to take her outside everyday after or before work

IS SHE HAPPY

when i brought this up to my friend and my mom they both said I was so lucky to be able to work from home with her. I can't find that lucky feeling ANYWHERE i am EXHAUSTED and her needs being met are my highest priority but I dont know if im capable of meeting her social needs as much as other kids in daycare. Daycare isn't an option for us its 1000 bucks a month minimum where I live. I dont know what the point of this post is but have at it. Thanks!

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In a muddy bog i wade

In thick murky water i tread

My hands are gone

They've been taken

My hands are gone

They've been stolen

They've been stolen by saviors promised to me by men in a brick and stained glass oasis

all I had to do was ask for forgiveness

"Saying sorry is a sign of weakness"

My mother's voice ringing in the nape of my neck

I flail furiously

The polluted water lapping at my lips while I gulp and gasp;

drawing in water and steamed air with every attempt of finding oxygen to fill my lung

One lung

The other was taken

Stolen by boys hoping to fulfill their self written prophecies

Filling their zippers with my organ as a trophy for their fellow knights in shining armor

Saviors promised to me

Ive been taken. Ive been stolen.

I WFH full time with my 20 month old. I asked my friend (who has a stay at home husband) what she thought about how im doing as a parent. Am i overthinking her response?

Without sugar coating anything I’d say my personal opinion is you do just need to get some form of structure and try to look up things to do at home with her that’s conducive with her speech therapy and needs but also that (SO) needs to continue to step up and you see it’s not you being a horrible mom but a mom who is literally being ran ragged and doing what she can after working all day full time and not having the support in house that she needs. While you do have your parents helping it’s not the same as the leg up other people get of a home where they’re equally supported. I’d say also talk to your parents about structured play and schedule while she’s with them and trying to fill any gaps making you self conscious over things like I did with making (her SO) start taking her places during the week.

Just the title. I was so busy today. I wfh full time and she independently plays most of the day. The most I did to interact with her play wise was when she'd bring me a toy and I'd say "oh a cow? MOOOOOO" or if she would start fussing I would hold her while I worked. After work I usually sit in the floor with her and play but I just couldn't. I laid on the couch and watched her play with her toys. Im so depressed. I keep her fed hydrated and clean but today that was the bare minimum I did and I hate myself for it.

I've been wfh with my 19 month old since I finished my maternity leave when she was 4 months old. My job is mostly clerical work with few phone calls. My toddler is very 50 50 on independent play. Some days are better than others. And we go to her grandparents house about twice a week for extra help. Every time I'm behind that screen, even if she's playing independently, I get a sense of dread that is just nagging me to get in the floor and play with her. She gets undivided attention on my lunch and breaks and after and before work but im constantly battling guilt of "am I neglecting her"?? Can anyone relate?

28F newly diagnosed in the last year. I've been slapped with bipolar with psychosis, bpd with psychosis, post partum psychosis, GAD, major depression. It took FIFTEEN YEARS to find someone who listened to me and finally told me I have schizoaffective disorder. I have been employed my whole life, im currently a litigation specialist who works with attorneys, WFH with a toddler most days. Im obsessed with my appearance, obsessed with doing everything right. After being diagnosed I worked up the courage to get fmla with my job because of a psychotic break I had last year. I'm married and try to act like a housewife on top of a high stress job and raising a child. I cant ask for help because if I do I feel like im succumbing to my diagnosis as an excuse. I dont know what the point of this post is. Just looking for opinions and venting mostly.

Hi all

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I was diagnosed within the last year and found this sub. Glad to be here with you all.