u/Beneficial_Fail610

I’m new to TikTok affiliate marketing and I noticed something interesting that bigger affiliates have been talking about too.

Apparently, videos with the yellow basket/product link attached tend to get lower reach compared to normal content because TikTok prioritizes entertainment-focused videos more than direct selling content.

That’s why I noticed some affiliates don’t attach the yellow basket directly anymore. Instead they just say:

“check the showcase in my bio” or “product’s in my showcase”

So the video itself stays as a normal post without the product basket, but viewers can still find the product through the profile showcase.

For people who’ve been doing affiliate longer:
Is this actually effective long term? And is this fully allowed by TikTok Shop rules, or is it considered trying to bypass something?

Problem/Goal: I am not sure if I made the right decision by breaking up with my girlfriend. I am trying to understand if I reached my limit for valid reasons, or if I gave up too soon on something that was actually worth fighting for.

Context: I love my girlfriend. She is the kindest, sweetest, and purest person I have ever met. We were together for around 8 months. The best way I can describe her is she has this kind of love that feels so genuine, like how a puppy looks at you with so much warmth and excitement even if it is your first time meeting.

She takes care of me, makes sure I feel appreciated, and thanks me even for small things. She says “I love you” a lot, and she does not care about material things. Even just good food and spending time together already makes her happy.

Our usual days were simple but meaningful. I would pick her up, we would go to a cafe to study or just chill, attend our online classes at night, then eat dinner and I would hatid ko na siya pauwi. When we got home, we would still call each other. It was routine, but it felt comforting.

I also tried to show up for her in my own ways. I made sure she had eaten, and whenever I could, I would bring her food for lunch kasi I knew there was not always much to eat at home. I spend time with her around 2 to 3 times a week since we are in the same school.

She needs a lot of reassurance, and I understand why. She has been cheated on, ghosted, and grew up in an environment where people in her life would leave her. Because of that, she is afraid that one day I might just realize I do not want this anymore.

Even during good moments, she sometimes worries that I might reach my limit being with her. I know her reassurance is not about doubting me, but about trying to feel secure.

At one point, I told her I felt pressured because it seemed like her world revolved around me. She acknowledged that and tried to build her own individuality, which I appreciated.

We also come from different environments. I have more freedom to go out and spend time with friends, while she cannot really go out unless it is for school because of her family. I think this difference affected our dynamic.

Some of our conflicts came from small things (for her it’s not small, and I get that). I sometimes forget plans or details, especially when I get overwhelmed with studies. I always apologize when that happens. On normal days, I do remember and even plan dates for us. It is never intentional, but I know it still hurts her.

Another difference is how we spend our time. I enjoy doing things alone, while she prefers doing things together. I am okay with that, but there are times I really need space.

Sometimes I hesitate to say that because I do not want her to feel bad or think I do not want to be with her. To her credit, when I do communicate it, she tries and gives me that space.

We both tried to improve. I worked on not being defensive, and she worked on how she expresses herself. She is very self-aware and has been trying to unlearn patterns from her past, and I genuinely saw that effort.

She also made sure I felt appreciated. She would message me after we got home thanking me and pointing out even the small things I did for her. I never felt taken for granted.

We were able to talk about all of these things openly, and we even tried starting over multiple times. But despite all that, we still ended up hurting each other. We both got emotionally drained.

No one forced me to do the things I did for her. I did them because I wanted to and because I love her.

So I ended it.

Now I am left questioning everything. I do not know if I gave up too soon. She feels perfect in so many ways, but at the same time, I feel like we were not aligned in what we needed and how we handled things.

I am also scared that if I give it another chance, we might just end up hurting each other again. There is honestly so much more to our story that I cannot fully put into words here.

Please do not hate her. I am not blaming her for anything.

I am just very confused right now. If we stayed, we might hurt each other more. But if we let go, I feel like I might be giving up something really beautiful.

Would appreciate honest insights.