My husband(43) likes to travel to Asia (China) to hook up with girls on Tantan or Jimu
TL;DR: polygomy saying he’s not polygamy and I was force to be in the situation
He’s being honest about it. He’s not planning stop doing it. He’s working on making me from tolerating it to accepting it .
He said at least he’s open and transparent about it most men just hide all the way. He usually don’t touch the hookers he said, he purposely found innocent girls on the app that are attracted to foreigners and “cum dump”. He claimed he would never leave me. We both make good incomes, divorce financially will not be an issue. It’s the 11 years togetherness hurts. I don’t know why I just realized. at this point I don’t know believing in him loving me is stupid or what…we travel for his work together to another place in east Asia and he parted to China afterwards , I have to come back for work. He also said it’s an occasional Wagyu compared to daily ribeyes (that was me he said) kind of thing. Saying he has proven that no matter what he does over there he will still end up coming home. I was told: I was respected otherwise he would’ve just hide and not be transparent. Does any man thinks the same he does? Am I not cool enough???
I mean, I didn’t start right, I thought if I let him do it, will be like: oh he did it , done that, I’m cool. Apparently it’s an endless black hole. He’s now would take any chance he can get(detour from the work trip) to go to China and do his “business”. There were some boundaries we’ve discussed , but I found he did some out of boundary things few times.
I don’t know where to start the process to handle this. I know changing him is impossible, then it comes to leaving?
We don’t have kids, good incomes.
I need help organizing my logic here. I don’t have clear logic thought process, need to start from somewhere.