r/Polygamy

TL;DR: polygomy saying he’s not polygamy and I was force to be in the situation

He’s being honest about it. He’s not planning stop doing it. He’s working on making me from tolerating it to accepting it .
He said at least he’s open and transparent about it most men just hide all the way. He usually don’t touch the hookers he said, he purposely found innocent girls on the app that are attracted to foreigners and “cum dump”. He claimed he would never leave me. We both make good incomes, divorce financially will not be an issue. It’s the 11 years togetherness hurts. I don’t know why I just realized. at this point I don’t know believing in him loving me is stupid or what…we travel for his work together to another place in east Asia and he parted to China afterwards , I have to come back for work. He also said it’s an occasional Wagyu compared to daily ribeyes (that was me he said) kind of thing. Saying he has proven that no matter what he does over there he will still end up coming home. I was told: I was respected otherwise he would’ve just hide and not be transparent. Does any man thinks the same he does? Am I not cool enough???
I mean, I didn’t start right, I thought if I let him do it, will be like: oh he did it , done that, I’m cool. Apparently it’s an endless black hole. He’s now would take any chance he can get(detour from the work trip) to go to China and do his “business”. There were some boundaries we’ve discussed , but I found he did some out of boundary things few times.
I don’t know where to start the process to handle this. I know changing him is impossible, then it comes to leaving?
We don’t have kids, good incomes.
I need help organizing my logic here. I don’t have clear logic thought process, need to start from somewhere.

Has anyone tried Sisterwives to any success? It seems like a steep monthly fee, and I'm sure at least half of the women are bots. The other site, Modernpolygamy seemed to be pretty inactive though. I made a profile and sent out a message a day for a few weeks and never got a response.

Wanted to see if anyone else tried it before I pull the trigger

蠻好奇有兩個老婆都有生
如果小的知道 大的不知道
這些人什麼分配時間的

Genuinely curious why you’re in one if u can share

Assalamu Alaikum everyone,

I'm a 34-year-old man from Pakistan, Alhamdulillah living a happy and stable life. I've been blessed with a wonderful, supportive wife and two beautiful kids. We have a good relationship, communicate openly, and generally don't have major issues.

The only thing we strongly disagree on is having more children.

I would really like to have more kids, but my wife is firm that she doesn't want to go through another pregnancy. We've discussed it many times over the years, and she has consistently maintained her position.

What surprised me is that instead of asking me to give up on the idea, she has repeatedly suggested that I consider a second marriage if having more children is that important to me. This isn't something she said in anger during an argument—we've had calm, serious discussions, and she's still firm on that suggestion.

The problem is... I'm not sure I can do it.

I don't know if I have the emotional capacity to manage two marriages fairly. I worry about the impact on my current family, my wife, my children, and my own peace of mind. At the same time, I also wonder if I'll regret not having more children later in life.

I'm not looking for religious rulings or debates about whether it's permissible. I'm more interested in hearing from people who have faced a similar situation.

Have any of you been in this position?

Did you choose a second marriage, or did you let go of the desire for more children?

If you entered a second marriage, did it bring peace or create more challenges than you expected?

If you stayed with one marriage, do you have any regrets?

I'd really appreciate thoughtful, respectful advice from people with real-life experience.

JazakAllahu Khair.

So me and my wife went to a swingers club. She was in the hot tub with a guy and they went to the pool and played around while I was there. I went to the bathroom and came back and she said we are going to the playroom we go and both of them started having sex he went in unprotect and my wife said I should remind her about condoms while having sex because she was vaping and was cumming alot. What should I do im jealous and upset but still want to continue the lifestyle.

I met a man from Senegal five months ago and I fell in love with him. I am a revert to Islam and was in search of a muslim man, I met him on a dating app and we have been talking everyday since we met, we met in person recently and we honestly get along well with each other. After returning home from visiting him he confessed that he is polygynous and would like for me to accept this so we can move forward . He has mentioned being interested in polygamy prior but said he does not want to lose me so he will try to be with just me. I have addressed my concerns with him. I feel like there is always a favorite wife and I feel like me being the first wife, I am the starter wife or the safe option until he finds the woman he actually wants to be with. He denies this and says he cannot do that to me and that he will love and take care of both of his wives. I’m a bit skeptical and would like some advice or input from a first or second wife.

How do people convince their first wife for polygamy.

And how do they find women that will be willing to become second wife.

Trying to grasp this concept.

Ladies, let's be honest when it comes to the men you are dating. Most women don't want to admit this but they are sharing the same man. Whether or not you agree, by only dating the "top ten percent" of men, are you essentially supporting polygamy?

This probably applies only to women who have achieved success (financially and career wise) because they prefer to date men on their level.

There is nothing wrong with polygamy and it has been around for 1000s of years.

This is to those who identify themselves aa Christians, I understand that polygamy is in the Bible- my question is what is the purpose or backing (from a biblical standpoint) that you have for wanting/permitting any of your wives to be bisexual?

Disclaimer: Very new here and seeking (I’m 33, wife is 28) to lead my family closer to Christ while potentially having two wives (and living like the Old Testament times)…

Im seeking a Christian woman that would like to partake in a conversation (no rush) about whether joining us may be the right fit…

A little about us- we are a Christian family with a small child in Detroit. I have a business and own 2 paid off houses- you would have your own house and I would provide for you your needs. We stay in shape and eat healthy and seek perfection in everything we do as the Word commands.

Again, this is very new to me as I believe that having two wives is Biblical and this is my next approach into seeking another wife to join us.

Im curious about having to wives in the future and I want to know whether or not this is easy and how to achieve this. We can begin a conversation. I'm a hispanic theoretical physicist starting my Masters Degree. I'd appreciate any suggestions of those who are already experienced (men who already have two girlfriends/wives).

Also if you want to share your experience in a three person relationship feel free to do it. Thanks :)