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So I met this guy like a week ago and he was pretty cute. At some point he mentioned his birthday was coming up, so I told him happy birthday, and he was like “it’s next week.”
Well… it is now “next week.” But I have absolutely no idea what day his birthday actually is.
We kind of run in the same circles, so I don’t want to embarrass myself. Also (important context), I was pretty drunk when I met him… and also the next few days I saw him. And yes, I did attempt to flirt with him in a very questionable, drunk way. So my credibility is already… not amazing. I also need to mention i am 19 and he is around that age too.

Now I want to wish him a happy birthday, but I don’t know how to do it without sounding weird or particularly flirty.
I was thinking of saying something like:
“Heyy, I vaguely remember it was your birthday around now, so happy birthday”

But I don’t know if that sounds cute or just chaotic.
Any ideas on what I could say?

Little update:
The conversation was like.

Me: Heyy, I vaguely remember it was your birthday around now, so happy birthday.

Him: it was actually yesterday but thank you.

Me: oops, just a little late

Him: no problem🙃

Then I just hearted his last comment because i didn’t know what to say and i also didn’t want to annoy him in case he wasn’t interested.

This is a long story, but I’ll try to keep it short.

On a New Year’s party, I (18) ended up kissing one of my brother’s (17) friends (then 16 now 17, let’s call him Jake). It was a party where basically everyone I know was there, including my brother. The problem is, I was very drunk. Like, blacked-out drunk. I don’t even remember meeting Jake.

My memory only comes back around 4 a.m., and the first thing I remember is literally kissing him in the woods nearby. I have no idea what happened before that. And I can’t even ask Jake, because I don’t have his number and he won’t accept me on socials.

Fast forward to about two weeks ago: my brother suddenly got really mad at me. Like, out of nowhere. He wouldn’t tell me why, but I had a feeling it might be about that night. Today I basically got confirmation that he knows about me kissing Jake, so I’m 99% sure that’s why he’s upset.

The thing is that he’s still really mad. Like, won’t even sit at the table with me for family dinner. And I genuinely don’t know what to do.

I get that I shouldn’t have done that, but I don’t understand why he’s this angry about it. I feel like I wouldn’t be mad if it were the other way around. Is that just me?

Any advice on how to handle this? Because I can’t handle this anymore and I want him to stop hating me.