22F 25M
My boyfriend and I had a very serious argument about two friends of mine about a month ago. It was a trust-related issue and it got to the point where we almost broke up over it. After a long conversation, I ended up blocking them on all platforms for the sake of the relationship. He asked me afterwards if I thought they would reach out once they realized they were blocked, and I said I didn’t know and would have no way of knowing.
Recently, I checked my laptop and saw that both of them had messaged me after being blocked. I didn’t respond and don’t intend to.
Things between us are currently okay and we’ve moved past the argument, but it was a really intense situation at the time and I’m worried that bringing this up now could reopen old trust wounds or make him start questioning the relationship again. At the same time, I feel guilty about not mentioning it, and I can’t tell if that feeling is because this is actually something important he should know for trust reasons, or if it’s more just my own anxiety and need to “clear the air” even though nothing actually happened.
Question: How do people usually handle situations where bringing up a small detail from a past argument might reopen old trust issues?