u/Best_One4021

One of my friends invited me to her bachelorette trip and I don’t know anyone but the bride but was still excited to go and meet new people so said yes. But last week was her shower and I sat at a table with her other friends that are also going and it was awkward. As soon as I sat down they didn’t even look at me and I introduced myself and they said hi and started talking amongst themselves. Since there was no one else to talk to in the table I listened into the conversation and tried adding things when I could but only got one word replies back. I even brought up the bachelorette and asked them what they are wearing and they said they didn’t know and then they pulled out their phones to discuss their outfits just between them. They even had a discussion about another bachelorette trip they are going to where one girl doesn't know anyone but the bride and how weird it is that the bride invited her and that they would never go. As soon as I heard that I kind of started spiraling because that's what I'm doing. I’m not sure if I did something wrong and I understand that they all know each other but experiencing them almost actively ignoring me made me feel so shitty and I'm still thinking about it a week out. I thought I’d be ok going on the trip with people I don't know because I thought everyone would be open to talking to me too but now I’m anxious. I think I was spoken to for maybe 5 minutes during the 3 hour shower and it worries me to travel and spend 2 nights with them. Maybe it’ll be different because the bride will be more available to talk and hangout but I’m not sure how much to count on that. As a side note I've also not been drinking for some health reasons and that was already making me second guess. 

I’m looking for advice on what I should do? I really want to skip it now but it’s in a month so not sure how to cancel without it being rude. Any advice on what to say or should I just go even if I experience the same thing (no one really talking to me) so I don't hurt the bride's feelings? 

One of my friends invited me to her bachelorette trip and I don’t know anyone but the bride but was still excited to go and meet new people so said yes. But last week was her shower and I sat at a table with her other friends that are also going and it was awkward. As soon as I sat down they didn’t even look at me and I introduced myself and they said hi and started talking amongst themselves. Since there was no one else to talk to in the table I listened into the conversation and tried adding things when I could but only got one word replies back. I even brought up the bachelorette and asked them what they are wearing and they said they didn’t know and then they pulled out their phones to discuss their outfits just between them. They even had a discussion about another bachelorette trip they are going to where one girl doesn't know anyone but the bride and how weird it is that the bride invited her and that they would never go. As soon as I heard that I kind of started spiraling because that's what I'm doing. I’m not sure if I did something wrong and I understand that they all know each other but experiencing them almost actively ignoring me made me feel so shitty and I'm still thinking about it a week out. I thought I’d be ok going on the trip with people I don't know because I thought everyone would be open to talking to me too but now I’m anxious. I think I was spoken to for maybe 5 minutes during the 3 hour shower and it worries me to travel and spend 2 nights with them. Maybe it’ll be different because the bride will be more available to talk and hangout but I’m not sure how much to count on that. As a side note I've also not been drinking for some health reasons and that was already making me second guess.

I’m looking for advice on what I should do? I really want to skip it now but it’s in a month so not sure how to cancel without it being rude. Should I just go even if I experience the same thing (no one really talking to me) so I don't hurt the bride's feelings?