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Hi sisters,
I’m a young Muslim woman, and lately I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage. I really want to get married one day, but there’s something that’s been on my mind.
How do you know if you’re considered attractive enough for marriage if you’ve never really had people approach you? I’ve never really been complimented on my looks, and as far as I know, no one has ever expressed interest in me. I know I’m not hideous, but sometimes I genuinely wonder if I’m just unattractive. For context I usually dress really modest in long abayas. I usually go to school and work most of the time.
Sometimes I even wonder if anyone has ever had a crush on me, even for a second. (I’m not counting random older men that doesn’t really mean anything to me.)
For those of you who have felt this way before, how did you deal with it? Is it normal not to be approached? Does it actually say anything about your appearance, or are there other reasons? Especially as Muslim women, I know people don’t always express interest openly, so I’m curious what your experiences have been.
I’d really appreciate any advice or perspective. Jazakum Allahu khayran. 🤍

Salam everyone, I’m posting because I feel really overwhelmed and hoping someone can relate.
I feel like I have a serious food addiction. Food gives me emotional comfort and happiness, and I emotionally eat a lot. Even after I eat, I still feel hungry or like I’m not satisfied. I can eat a full meal and still keep thinking about food.
I also crave sugar a lot. Sometimes the cravings feel intense and hard to ignore, even when I’ve already eaten.
People keep telling me to “just eat more protein” or aim for 100g+ a day, but I honestly feel like I can’t stick to things and I’m scared nothing will work for me.
I also have basically no motivation to work out, which makes me feel even worse and more stuck.
I constantly fear becoming obese even though I’m not currently obese, but I feel out of control around food and that fear is always in my head. I can never seem to lose weight or be consistent.
Has anyone in this community dealt with this kind of constant hunger, emotional eating, food obsession, intense sugar cravings, or zero motivation to exercise? Did anything actually help? Was it stress, hormones, habits, binge eating, something else? I hate all this food guilt.
I’d really appreciate advice from people who understand. Please be kind, I genuinely need help.

Salam sisters 🤍 I’m graduating soon and need outfit advice! The graduation colors are green and black, and I want something that feels modest but absolutely gorgeous ✨
I’m 5’9, tall, and not super petite, so I’d love recommendations that would flatter my height/body type. I want to feel elegant, confident, and like it’s a BIG graduation moment 🥹🎓
What should I wear? Dress styles, outfit ideas, colors that would complement green/black, shoe ideas drop everything please 💚🖤

Salam sisters 🤍 I’m graduating soon and need outfit advice! The graduation colors are green and black, and I want something that feels modest but absolutely gorgeous ✨
I’m 5’9, tall, and not super petite, so I’d love recommendations that would flatter my height/body type. I want to feel elegant, confident, and like it’s a BIG graduation moment 🥹🎓
What should I wear? Dress styles, outfit ideas, colors that would complement green/black, shoe ideas drop everything please 💚🖤

I don’t really know how to start this, but I just need to get it off my chest.

Lately I’ve been struggling a lot, and I feel like it’s starting to affect my relationship with Allah. I hate even admitting that, but it’s the truth. I feel weaker spiritually, and I think a big part of it is just how overwhelmed I feel being a woman right now.

It’s like everything feels restricted. Not being able to travel alone, being told wearing perfume is a huge sin, avoiding makeup completely… and now I’m even hearing that a “proper” hijab can’t have embroidery. It just feels like no matter what, we’re not allowed to look good at all. Like we’re just supposed to exist and not feel جميلة in any way, or not feel so hideous all the time.

And then I look around and it feels like everyone else is perfect. Other hijabis with beautiful skin, looking put together and naturally gorgeous, and I just feel… less than. Like I’m trying so hard but still don’t feel good about myself.

And the thing is, I’m not doing any of this for a man. I’m 18 and I’ve never even bought makeup because I’ve always been scared of sinning. I’ve tried so hard to stay within the limits. I only wear abayas, never pants or jeans even though I think they’re cute, because I’ve heard scholars say no. I’m really trying.

But at the same time… my mental health is getting worse. I have health issues, and honestly something as simple as smelling nice or looking put together helps me feel a little better about myself. And now I feel guilty for even wanting that.

I don’t know. I’m just tired. I want to be modest, I want to please Allah, but it’s starting to feel really heavy and confusing. Like I’m constantly scared I’m doing something wrong.

I’m sorry for the rant. I just needed to say it somewhere.