u/Big_Astronomer6905

Hi everyone, i’m in a bit of a dilemma.

I’m graduating from University with a bachelors degree this summer. Because of internships during my school year, one of the jobs has contacted me and offered me a full time position. This is awesome.

Although, after graduation my boyfriend and I have talked about what we will do. He lives in the US. We were gonna apply for a K1 visa, so I could move there as soon as possible. That has always been the plan. It’s super difficult for him to move to my country (Denmark), because of immigration laws. It has been considered (obviously). We wanna settle down and start a family, and obviously get married. I don’t know what to do.

I feel like I should be happy that I have this opportunity, but it’s only making me more stressed and sad. I wanna be with my boyfriend, as i’m very unhappy here. I’m in a bad situation with my family, and I feel like I have no one to rely on.

Has anyone been in this situation? Can anyone give me a bit of advice?

Scared of telling my (F23) Mom (F56) plans of moving to the US to live with my partner (M24)

I’ve been with my partner for over 1.5, and we are planned to get engaged and apply for the K-1 visa as soon as I get my bachelors degree in June. My partner lives in the US, I currently live in Denmark.

We see each other monthly for weeks at a time, I basically spend more time outside of my home country than inside it.

I’ve always had issues with my mom, we’ve never really gotten along the way other moms and daughters would. My dad died in December, which has taken a huge toll on all of us. Visiting my bf and spending time with his family has been a huge eye opener for me. For once I feel like I have a place where I belong. People who actually like me and support, and enjoy my company. All my time at home is spent bickering or arguing, or overall her complaining about me.

For now, we’ve decided that the best idea would be for me to move to the US (for now), since it’s way easier. Though we both love Denmark, and would highly consider moving back here one day.

The only issue is, i’m scared my mom will cut me off. I don’t know how to tell her, or if I should even tell her. I just wish she’d be happy for me but I don’t know how to go about it.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you go about it?

Thank you!

I’ve been with my partner for over 1.5, and we are planned to get engaged and apply for the K-1 visa as soon as I get my bachelors degree in June. My partner lives in the US, I currently live in Denmark.

We see each other monthly for weeks at a time, I basically spend more time outside of my home country than inside it.

I’ve always had issues with my mom, we’ve never really gotten along the way other moms and daughters would. My dad died in December, which has taken a huge toll on all of us. Visiting my bf and spending time with his family has been a huge eye opener for me. For once I feel like I have a place where I belong. People who actually like me and support, and enjoy my company. All my time at home is spent bickering or arguing, or overall her complaining about me.

For now, we’ve decided that the best idea would be for me to move to the US (for now), since it’s way easier. Though we both love Denmark, and would highly consider moving back here one day.

The only issue is, i’m scared my mom will cut me off. I don’t know how to tell her, or if I should even tell her. I just wish she’d be happy for me but I don’t know how to go about it.

Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you go about it?

Thank you!