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I want to clean the internals and fan of my MacBook and maybe replace the thermal paste.
Can you guys suggest a good trusty shop for this to be done?
The laptop is my entire work life and I have backups and everything but I can’t afford any risk so even if the price is higher I want to go for the best most experienced service centre.
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TL;DR (ai) : Best friend of ~12 years slowly stopped replying after I moved abroad for my PhD. Calls ignored, texts left for weeks. I got seriously ill for 4 months — she didn’t reach out once. Confronted her twice, she promised to do better, lasted a week each time. Haven’t spoken in a year. I miss her badly and still think “I need to tell Jodie” about things, but my pride won’t let me reach out. Also suspect her new pro-Israel friend group may have soured her on me over my pro-Palestine views. Don’t know whether to reach out or accept it’s over.
Hey
I (M27) have had a best friend, I’ll call her Jodie (F27), since right before freshman year. To keep it short, we did everything together. She was there for my worst and best moments and vice versa. We were convinced we’d be lifelong friends, knew each other’s families really well. Cried together, laughed together, travelled together, had a lot of firsts together. The kind of best friend you’re lucky to have (I didn’t have many close friends growing up bc of my mom’s job).
3 years ago I moved to Germany for higher studies. It’s been extremely hard and stressful and I admit I had no time for anything I liked. I was talking to friends and family much less but still made a conscious effort to carve out time, and tbh it worked great in the beginning (still does). I try to reply to texts under 2 days and have calls at least twice a month w my closest people. Since starting my PhD I haven’t been able to see any of them irl or join for holidays, so these calls are very important to my sanity.
W Jodie, at first it was fine, we’d text and call as needed. It kept reducing but I chalked it up to her being busy (rightfully so, we aren’t kids anymore). It kept getting worse- weeks to reply, calls unanswered, wouldn’t even text back saying “hey sorry, let’s try x time” (which she used to). I brought it up a few times and each time there’d be a small change for a couple of days before going back to zero. I felt like to have a conversation, I needed to start it, steer it AND deal w being patched for days if not weeks. She’s usually super on top of stuff like this like during college she had a literal chart for reaching out to her hometown friends.
After about 2 years of this, I got extremely sick and didn’t text her for ~4 months bc I was doing really poorly. At the end of it I was hurt to see she hadn’t reached out once. Once I got better I sent her a message saying this was very rude and I can’t do a one-sided friendship (it was longer but you get the gist). She agreed and we made a plan to catch up every Sunday night no matter what. That lasted 1 week. I brought it up again, mentioned the 4 month gap and how she didn’t even know I was sick, and she promised it wouldn’t happen again. This time I told her if my texts get patched for weeks on end, I’m done trying.
Well, that’s what happened. The last message on our chat is from almost a year ago me wishing her on the anniversary of her leaving an abusive relationship (we celebrated this every year).
Thing is, I really miss my best friend. I wanted our families and kids to be close, to go on family holidays together. I feel like I tried my best but I’m a proud person and I can’t keep being disrespected. At the same time losing the whole friendship hits like a gut punch. Years of memories soiled.
Sometimes I wanna reach out but never have. Still think about it time to time, still get moments where something happens and my first thought is “Jodie needs to hear about this” before I remember we don’t speak anymore. I still talk to her parents and sister and idk if they even know we haven’t spoken in a year (I didn’t tell them).
Her reasons were always that she’s overwhelmed or busy, which I believed at first but now I call bs. There’s never been an issue between us that took more than an hour to resolve which is part of why we got along was that we saw the world very similarly.
One reason I’ve been turning over: she moved for work and made new friends, all “American Israelis.” I’m very pro Palestine (rightfully so) and while I never argued w these people I made it clear I disagreed w their clearly false beliefs and statements (think twitter slop). I didn’t even wanna have that conversation but they pushed it. Part of me wonders if she’s been turned to thinking my politics are wrong and that I’m “supporting criminals” (as they called it). If that’s the reason, honestly things get easier as I won’t have a genocide sympathiser as a friend.
Overall I’m just confused and needed to vent. I miss her so much and wanna reach out and ask how she’s been, but my pride won’t let me. I’m constantly wondering how she’s doing, and the memories make me sad when they come up.
Like I said, I didn’t have great friendships growing up so idk what to do here. With relationships I’m pretty pragmatic and have never dwelled after a breakup as I was sure I did the right thing and was better off. I can’t bring myself to do that here.
Please help me fix my mind or navigate the thoughts atleast so I can get over this.