u/Bigenderqueen

He said "home," and she laughed because it wasn't romantic at all, until she realized it was the most romantic thing anyone had ever said.

After she left, he made more money than either of them had imagined and still couldn't afford to stop missing her.

He placed her missing engagement ring beside the plate and whispered, "Your predecessor's thigh."

Before I transitioned. Before I figured out I was into dudes. I was with this girl. One year younger. And I was stupid enough to let her move in for FREE.

I paid EVERYTHING. Rent. Bills. Food. Her clothes. Her makeup. Her little shopping trips she loved so much. I was her personal piggy bank with a pulse.

And the sex? Dead. Completely dead. I didn't even want her. She didn't care. Because she wasn't there for sex. She was there for the free ride.

Then I got smart. I told her, "Hey, I'm already funding your whole life. Go get a damn job."

You should've seen her. She looked INSANE. Fury like I'd never seen. Like I'd just committed a crime. The entitlement was disgusting.

She dumped me a month later.

Not because I was a bad partner. Not because we weren't compatible. But because I refused to be a bigger ATM than I already was.

Let that sink in. She left because the money wasn't flowing enough.

Six months later-SIX-she texts me. No "how are you." No apology. Just "can I have some money?"

I laughed, said no, and ended the conversation.

Female nature. Plain and simple. You're only as good as what you give. The second you stop, you're worthless to them.

Never. Again.

Last month, I met a guy at a bar. We made out all night. It was great. I wanted to go to his place, but I didn't. Why? Because I was terrified of being a one-night stand and getting ghosted.

But here's the deeper issue: I strongly believe my virginity and body are for my future husband. Even though we didn't have sex, I feel like I crossed a line just by being that physically intense with a stranger.

Two questions for you all:

Was I right to hold back purely out of fear of being ghosted?

1. Is it unhealthy to view my body as belonging to a man I haven't married yet?

2. I'd love your honest takes. Be blunt if you need to.

I'm not just talking about sex (though I'm not not talking about it lol). I mean the small stuff: cuddling, how he touches you, how he looks at you, how PDA works in public. Does it ever feel performative? Does it feel natural?

I'm so done. Dems are running wide-open borders like it's no big deal, unsafe and unsustainable. And the GOP? Straight-up fascism, with us as their #1 target. Europe's not a refuge either, their open borders are a mess too. So where the hell do we go? Feels like every option is a trap. Just need to know I'm not the only one feeling this hopeless.

If you step back and look at the dynamic objectively, the straight male position is baffling

They are hormonally wired to pursue a demographic that, by all observable metrics, experiences significantly lower spontaneous desire for them than they do for other stimuli (emotional connection, financial security, even other women).

They invest massive amounts of time, money, and ego into "winning" someone who, in most long-term dynamics, views intimacy as a chore to be negotiated rather than a need to be fulfilled. The chase is rigged. The "prize" is reluctant participation. And yet they keep running the same playbook, generation after generation.

It's not sad, it's just...inefficient biology. I can't imagine being that neurologically trapped.