u/Binglebop_

i (19f) have had a ‘sort of crush’ on this girl for a while where i dont know whether i have any desire to date her or not. and it fluctuates quite frequently.

she was visiting my city this week and before she left i kissed her. i knew i wanted to. i tried to avoid it in my head to not make things complicated but i left two separate times and both times i came back wanting to kiss her. it was like, instinctual? im not sure. but i could not stop thinking about kissing her, it felt painful to leave without it.

we’re both very confused on what this means for us. i don’t know what this holds for our relationship, and whether she even wants something out of it.

it’s clear she did enjoy the kiss and so did i, but im just confused on where this goes. it feels like she’s expecting something and im not sure if i can live up to it. i don’t know if i want to date her.

i know i don’t have to date her, and this can just be something inbetween. but i don’t know whether i want to, and that’s what’s bothering me. i wish i could figure this out.

advice would be appreciated.

1. how do i figure out if i like her
2. how do i figure out if i want to date her