u/Bitter-Olive-9020

My family and I (18F) were planning on going to NYC after I graduated high school, but their actions say otherwise.

My siblings (23F, 20M, and 17F) were the ones supposedly coming with me to NYC (My parents can’t make it due to work and other personal reasons) . We had decided months prior that we would like to take a train since it might not be too far from where we were. We agreed on sharing the bnb cost and I’d be the one booking everything since I was good at that with domestic travel.

But when it came time to pay they backtracked. My brother told me to wait on the train ticket prices to lower, my sister said she didn’t really like NYC, and my younger sister said she wanted to go to a beachy state for the summer. I was confused and honestly a bit angry because we had discussed all our plans before hand and how much I wanted to go to NYC. Nevertheless I waited and tried to convince them.

Terrible mistake because the train ticket prices went up from $169 per person to $300. Which I then communicated with them and they told me they were all ready to pay but i didn’t want to book it lol. I couldn’t take any more of their excuses so I booked a flight for myself to go to NYC without them and a bnb for a place to stay. It was cheaper, faster and more convenient than taking a train. I had broke this news to them and my entire family disapproved. My mom explained It was dangerous and I wouldn’t know how to navigate an airport all by myself. She’s a bit traditional so she told me it wasn’t normal for a girl to do that either lmao. My dad is the same, and my siblings can’t believe it either. It isn’t my first time traveling alone so I knew what I was getting myself into, just not in a big city like NYC.

So AITAH for going to NYC without my family?

Hi, I 18F am wondering the easiest way I could cut off my friend group. I know it sounds weird and honestly fake but i’ve never felt included.

Throughout our highschool years my friend group started out as a trio but slowly became a duo in a trio. Me being excluded from that trio. I began to notice being left out when they would hang out together without me, plan matching outfits for fun events, plan events without me in mind, and even leaving me out when gossiping which all three of us loved to do lol.

I never questioned it nor did i explore any of my feelings that made me feel as if I were being left out, so I never confronted them. That was until today, I got a message from one of my friends (In the trio) asking if i knew what the plans were for a day they had planned with our other friends. I assured her I knew some from a mutual friend and she explained the plans further ending it with “you can come if you want.”

It really rubbed me the wrong way. Like I was a second thought. Other girls were coming with us and she asked me if i could drive there and everyone else was just going in her car as well. I don’t know if i’m reading into it too much but it makes me feel like i’m not wanted. Their actions have definitely played a part in the way i’ve been acting towards them as well (distant/isolated) and they never really seemed to care for why I would act that way, so to stop feeling this way I just wanted to know the easiest way to cut them off? I know distancing and isolating is an option but I want to be a bit upfront about it and let them know.