u/Bitter_Night7929

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Hello friends, it's high time I find help on this coz it's draining my energy, thinking and my ambitions in life. 4 months ago I got a job offer from a certain institution (banking sector), I was working on a permanent job at a certain parastatal institution and I have worked there almost 3 years, I have seen all my friends I started with getting promoted to higher positions while I was left out and caged coz of how working hard I was. Now through all the toxicity and also the work environment which is mostly influenced by politics I accepted the job offer at the private institution.

4 months now my mind keeps hammering me with the ideas that I made a bad decision switch and when I see how my previous work place things have changed it keeps stressing me out, and the hard part is the job I was working at that parastatal is the same job am working at the bank but my career dreams is to work in different sector like data analysis, monitoring and evaluation, research, project officer which I know am good at depending on the level of knowledge I have and also my bachelors..

Since switching I haven't been more happier and I have always have stressed on what if I lose this job coz due to stress and depression I tend to procrastinate and also look back to wer I was, asking myself questions like what if I stayed myb could have got promoted since now they are more internal vacancies to that previous institution I was working...

I really need help on how I can stop looking back and focus on my current job and also if there is anyone who come across this scenario, your help will much be appreciated.

Guys help me with the procedure for acquiring a business certification...

After collecting TPIN and registering online what's next?? How do you lay online etc.

I am a 30yrs old man married with a kid and I have almost 6 siblings 1 brother and 5 sisters.. my father worked so hard paying school fees and taking care of the family I struggled from secondary to university but I have always wanted to have a degree and make my dad proud for the sacrifices he made on paying school fees. (Story for another day). Currently I am working, and My younger sister was born after me also she is working as a teacher. She also worked so hard too even though she did her secondly at your village wer she went soon after finishing standard 8. Now the story which stresses me out is that the other 4 sisters and my youngest brother haven't been doing well at school. He failed MSCE once and repeated and failed again, the other 2 sisters also failed the first attempt and repeated failed too. The last born failed primary school repeated and failed again just recently. 😭😭😭😭😭😭 No matter how we advise them to work hard they always fail I don't know what might be the problem in our family, my dad is old now but still he worked tirelessly trying to feed the family while I and my elder sis help him too on school fees and other things. When I think about all this it pains me and worries me so much 😭 I don't know who cursed us 😭😭. I thought me finishing my degree will motivate my younger brother and sisters to do well at school... Whenever I try to talk to them they seem to understand but still no change. I don't know what to do anymore coz even if I do stay far now but my thoughts are always home and it always disturbs my career, health etc. eshiiiiii am fade up with all this.

To retired gooners how did you stop and what's the secret, coz most people normalize gooning in your days by saying won't cost anything money etc. but the guilty after doing it eshiiiii...

Left the job I was working for 3 years due to some bias in promotions etc since it's a parastatal ndale ndi ma link. Now started working another job but sometimes I do feel like I made a bad decision, coz currently seems people are enjoying just 2 months after me moving to another job and my current job seems stressful coz mostly I tend to look back and think of what if it won't work out, will I be able to support my wife and kid, am stuck with thoughts and it's making me feel depressed all the time. The past Job and current job are the same items of workflow.. how do you deal with all this eshiiiii and stress 😬

Team tithandizeni passport yathu ituluke, idakali pa pending approval mose yakhalira. Kaya pafunika money am ready....

I have saved up to 2 million I am planning to start agro business selling farm produce or buy land, the farm business I haven't found a place yet but I have some stock of rice (5 bags osaputha and 150kg scale ⚖️). Which one should I go for? Pros and cons.

Yesterday my grandmother was in a serious situation very sick and we took her to the hospital and the whole night she was struggling heavily and my mother was closely monitoring her. Later she stopped talking, her heart stopped breathing after my mum checked her and my dad checked her too. For 30 minutes they tried to check the granny again nothing changed her pose stopped.. she called her relatives and announced that she had died. But 3 hours later my uncle came she noticed that her body was still warm that she might be alive. Now they have taken her to the hospital for checkup waiting for feedback... The granny is my mum's mum... If she is alive will the family relatives blame my dad on it? If that happens what can he do am scared for him, and if the granny is really gone, will that not affect the relationship between my dad and the relatives both way if whether she is oky or not... Am scared 😨😨😳. This situation is critical.... I myself couldn't check on her pose coz I haven't been oky am sick been on my bed.

Help on this, what's the minimum or maximum time a man and a woman can proceed sleeping together(s$x) after the birth of a kid. Coz I was advised from the hospital that 6 weeks after birth it's oky. It's been 14 weeks now we haven't. Whats the recommendation period to resume s£x after birth.

Anyone having this book pdf format please please share

Been struggling to let go of a certain habit and I think it turning into addiction 😔.

Soon I will have 1 million kwacha and I want to start a hardware business (shop) or Agro trading business. What's your take on these 2 businesses, is 1 million enough

Help guys, may salary is 600,000 a month is it oky to rent a house ya 200,000. The job and working also offers 350,000 for transportation? The house is located in Blantyre.....

For allowances nde zero.

Got some money transferred to my account from my previous work place za allowance but I was removed pa payroll and am waiting for my salary for the month I save notice so izizi ndi travel allowance. If you wer you mungatani? Pena am like I should wait andilipile Kaye that salary ananditsekelezayo after the notice then should give them back their money or titani pamenepo?

Eeeee to say the truth ngati Pali ma HR Pano muzitolere guys and eshiiii. Ineyo I have very bad experience with HR team komwe ndimagwira tchito eeeee eeee even kusitha kubweretsa ena same story ayayayaya

Help team am looking for a house close to Limbe. 100k to 150k 2 bed rooms. Tithandizeni ma transport akutipweteka nanga daily 6 pin eeeshi..

Sometimes I think like ifeyo nde tinabadwa kuti chilichonse chitheke tizikomana Kaye ndi mavuto coz eeee ayi moyowu. Secondary taphunzira movutika, and I remember I dedicated my life kuti I will be the first person in our family to get a degree, tinamenya 19 points and was selected ku luanar, nde kupusha eeeee mavuto nde kumachita kukuthana nawo third year school fees kuvuta aaaa basi apa nde xool kusiya Kaye kusungitsa Malo, wakumagobo kosaka fees zonse sitingawasiyire madala.

Year kutha then kubwereranso ku school and finish uyu got a degree, lucky kulembera internship kutitenga koma nde kulimbikira eeeee anthu nkumawatenga permanent ife nde kulimbika Kuli chuu, mamwayi zatheka, kuyiyamba tchito nde kutipula, nde dedication komatu 3 year chuuu anthu onse oyamba nawo limodzi vepi ena okupeza kumakusiya pompo and getting promoted, eshiiii.

Kwinaku family ili kumbuyo kwathu, kwinaku ma sisters and brother alinso kunsana. Eeeeee moyowu Pena ayayayayaya... Mwinadi sitonse tingachite bwino pa Moyo tivutika basi kumadikira thawi yodzafa...