My father
Hello, new to this subreddit, i have read through some posts of general advice but im so scared i need some more specific advice i think.
Im 22F, i live with my mom 56F my brother 19M and my dad 57M.
My father is an alcoholic, though its recent, it started 2 years ago as a soothing agent from the immense stress he was under at that point: he has an extremely demanding job, manages all the finances in our house, and last year he had to split himself to take care of his dying father (he was 94yo had dementia, and couldn’t do anything for himself), my grandfather passed last year, but the drinking continues to this day.
His stress and alcoholism has caused him to break down multiple times (for the record he is extremely reserved, i had seen him cry maybe twice in my whole life before he started drinking, now its ben like 7 times in a year) he says he wants to die so he can finally rest and things of the sort.
We as a family have tried to take things off his plate, like helping with his mother (who has Alzheimers, is 96yo and is also demanding to take care of), also we have cut our expenses, because the finances constantly stress him out (he is scared because of his age they are gonna fire him, and we all are gonna live on the street and things of the sort)
Im on law school but i have at least 2 years until I’m done with it and can work so he may retire, my brother hasn’t started uni (in my country its like this, although he is a bit older) and my mother is a stay at home mom.
His health scares me also, he has biliary cysts he hasn’t taken care of because he has no time, he also never drinks water (maybe a coffe some days of the week), he drinks heavily at night and most times he doesn’t eat anything at that time.
I love my father, he is a good man and he doesn’t deserve the damage his workplace is doing to him, i want to help him but i feel so stuck.