u/Blessed34x

How long did it take for your WES trio test to come back? We TFMR due to multiple anomalies found on anatomy scan. Today marks exactly 6 weeks since we got our negative karotype and microarray test. The plan was to proceed with WES if those were negative. My genetic counselor already had the approval from my insurance company that day so that was not delayed. 3 days later our swabs arrived in the mail and we sent them out the next day. Is 6 weeks a long time to be waiting for results? She said they would only run mine and my husbands samples if they found something with the baby’s. I am so nervous they found something. My husband keeps saying just call the genetic counselor but I am afraid too because I am also dreading the results :(

I feel like nobody will truly understand what we went through besides us. My TFMR was about 2 months ago and I feel like people just expect me to be back to my old self. I try my hardest to be happy and positive and recently my family told me “you just seem so negative lately.. i know you went through something awful but it’s time to start to move on and be positive about things” Mind you.. my family has been my BACK BONE through all of this but to hear them say that truly hurt me. I know they didn’t mean it in a bad way but I know haven’t wanted to go out and do much with them because I am not myself. I miss being pregnant, I miss my baby, I miss the life I should be having in two short months. I have wanted some alone time and privacy with my husband so they think I am shutting them out. I know they care but it’s just so frustrating being around people who truly don’t understand what us women have gone through and the grief we carry each and every day.

I am about 1.5 months post tfmr and I was 24 weeks pregnant at the time. Everyone knew I was pregnant as we did a gender reveal video. Our siblings and parents are the only ones who knew we TFMR and we told everyone else we lost the baby.. I am assuming they think by miscarriage (of course nobody asks). I have been comfortable around our families because they have been with us every step of the way but I am nervous about seeing other people for the first time not being pregnant. I feel like they are gonna look at me differently and I feel almost awkward with myself. I feel so different and weird with myself and it makes me not want to leave my house. I work from home so I haven’t had to see many people other than family but now my family has friends who are coming to town to visit and I know I’ll have to see them. How did you manage seeing people for the first time not being pregnant anymore? Has anyone else experienced feeling beyond uncomfortable with themselves?

I’ve been on this page to many times to count. Reading everyone’s stories, knowing I am not alone. I had to TFMR at 24 weeks due to unexpected anomalies found on our anatomy scan. Everything at first was perfect, perfect scans, perfect health, perfect idea of our first baby. My husband and I are healthy and are beyond ready for our first baby. But I am sitting here exactly 1 month and 6 days out since my TFMR. I have my first period currently and am ready to start trying again. I am petrified though. I am READY for this fight to become parents but I am so anxious thinking about ever walking into another anatomy scan again. This was our first pregnancy. We are waiting for our WES trio results to come back before we officially start trying again but they have high suspicion that this was a random fluke. All of you ladies have so much strength for going through what we have been through and I’m honored to have read your own stories and am here for each and every one of you mamas <3 who else is about to start their TTC journey again? Any success stories from mamas who have TFMR before? I haven’t ever talked to anyone who has been through this before but I’d love to hear input and be apart of this group.