u/Blessingsfromabovex3

Parenting plan

My ex insists I follow his work schedule in our parenting plan ( he does not have to find child care but I do ) I was willing to be open to it - however I am noticing he is now booking time off work left right and center for social events. A few weeks ago one of our children had an important event . I asked if he wanted to attend . He said he could not book off work. I later found out he booked off for a social event that day and still did not show up for our child not even an hour . When I asked him about it he said he can do what he wants as it’s not his parenting time. I have to be honest I am hesitant to sign off on this as it feels like now I am not accommodating work but rather his social time and having to find child care too . His schedule is not an easy one to follow . Then add the added time he can book for social outings but not for our children is making me feel a bit resentful . I am not being considered at all in this schedule nor are my work hours. He does not have to find care at all. He is not accommodating my Current work schedule or one I may get in future as a single income.i get people book time off but I am not asking him to accommodate anything for me not even social events. He is painting out like he is working but not and insisting I accommodate that. What are your thoughts? Would you be hesitant to sign as well?? please no negative comments just honest thoughts because I’m trying to be kind and courteous but at the same time I think some boundaries need to be put in place. he doesn’t have family close by which is why I originally was considering it. for more backstory when our kids are sick, etc. he is never and was never able to book off work to accommodate them and it was always me and has been me. This weekend he is supposed to be at work however I know he’s going away for the long weekend instead. we still live together so it’s hard for him to kind of hide what he is doing..

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u/Blessingsfromabovex3 — 7 days ago

Memories

Does anyone just have random memories pop up as you are trying to busy yourself? I am 10 months into a separation after marriage . Some memories are bad but today’s was good. It absolutely broke me and I can’t stop crying. He was not a good husband to me and has made it clear in every way that he is fine with separating. I have accepted the separation and know in my heart that he will never change and I can’t ever go back . I just wish he wasn’t everywhere I look … in my thoughts …. In my soul . Just venting …. The memory hurt a lot .

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u/Blessingsfromabovex3 — 11 days ago

Separated 10 months …. Slept with another person just recently. I have mixed feelings about this but it happened. Is it normal to feel like you did something wrong even though you are separated and there is no chance of reconciliation? I feel like I betrayed my stbxh ? For back story this man cheated on me for years and completely discarded our family . He is also actively dating multiples including his affair partner. I tried so hard to reconcile. He had no interest . I wanted my marriage. I realize I need to take a step back and not do anything like this again until I’m healed. No judgments please. Can anyone relate ?

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u/Blessingsfromabovex3 — 26 days ago