Could use input on patterns
I’m a 36M and my last serious relationship ended when I was 31. I fell hard for her but after a lot of reflection realized she was using me for the most part and while she told me she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me she ended things and moved out of state a month later. After a lot of reflection I realized I let her use me and always put more into things than her. I want to be clear I am nowhere near perfect but I do my absolute best to grow as a person. I have my baggage but put everything I had into it. About 2 years ago I decided to get off hinge and didn’t bother putting effort into meeting people. A year ago I met someone without trying or expecting it who I really clicked with. 6months ago I decided to give things a shot beyond friendship as we easily and naturally developed feelings for one another. I tried to be extremely mindful of not repeating my mistakes and genuinely believed I hadn’t been. Recently she ghosted me and I understand a lot of the time it has more to do with others than me but it’s hard to not wonder if I’m the problem. Any insight would be appreciated.