u/Born-Success5542

Can you please help me understand what is common between people who identify as as aromantic? So I getting general understand what they like and not like.

I read a lot of posts about people who are aromantic but it seems to me that they are all different in many ways which is making me hard to understand what is an aromatic person.

I am asking this because I recently met a aromantic person who I like very much much and who has shared with me that he is aromantic. I have not met a aro before. So I am just trying to understand this better myself.

Thank you

I think i fall for people very quickly. And during dating itself I start to feel anxious of what other person is thinking and if they like me or now and overthinking and trying to keep there other one happy. I think I also end up messaging way too much. It affects me so much that I think I stop eating and doing other things cause I am stuck in my worry.

I am wondering my attachment to people has anything to with my Dysthymia? Or just other issues that I could have.

So I met a guy at a party about a month ago, we spoke a little bit then. We found out we lived near by and we exchanged numbers.

He texted me the next day… like a general conversation and it went on for a few days where we had some not very long but nice conversation. It felt nice that he seems in interested to get to know me.

We met for dinner once and for walks, and had some general conversation. not a whole lot other meet-up, I guess cause we both are busy our work. He is even more occupied as he will be levering in 8 months to a new city (which sucks).

Then he was away for a week where we one text he asked me if I was „looking for a relationship in general“. And I said I am but I would like to take things slow.We met up the day when he returned and things ended with me going over to his place. In middle of making out with him, he told me he is aromantic and is looking for something casual.

Over conversation and his interest in me seems to be less now after I slept with him. I did meet him again at his place and it was good but it still feels like my feeling are not being reciprocated. I understand he does not want a serious relationship but why is he so bad at responding to messages now. It’s is not like I am bombarding him with messages and want all his attention and time. I would atleast like to be having some conversation! He might just respond to a few texts and ignore some. I just want to atleast have conversations like before…

Please tell me anything to understand this better…

What kind of problems are you facing in your career?

Apart from procrastination, I feel like I am always confused about what I want do… and keep switching back and forth in my views. How can I find clarity and truly understand what I like?

Any other issues that you face? Or have overcome?

I 27F have been recently diagnosed with Dysthymia.
I find dating really hard, and also approaching people. I have been in one relationship in my life which was different and lasted about 2 years. I think I really felt guilty and anxious in it. And was not able to be in the moment.

Recently someone kind and nice approached me. I am going to go on a date with him but I am super nervous. I had previously told him in a conversation that I like to take things slow. I am excited and nervous and also cried a lot cause I have a feeling that they would not want to be with a sad boring person like me. I can’t be in a happy state for long. I am shy.

Is there anything you can tell me that could help me on my date…

What are other people advice in general and experiences?