u/Born_Writing6657

Like the girl is serious, emotionally available, tries to meet, supports him, and genuinely cares but the guy keeps partying, flirting with other girls, avoids commitment, and barely puts effort into the relationship.

Is it emotional attachment? Hope that he'll change? Attraction to potential? Fear of losing someone?

And how do you help someone realize they deserve consistency, effort, and respect instead of chasing someone emotionally unavailable?

Hi folks! From chennai I have been on Hinge for 5+ months with exactly zero matches so naturally I've had a lot of time to reflect on life.

Genuine question though what are people actually swiping for here?

Because from my pov,

If I focus on personality and write thoughtful comments, it's silence

If I just shoot my shot based on looks, also silence

If I try to balance both like a well adjusted human believe it or not, still silence

So now I'm wondering... is this just a looks first game and personality is a bonus? Or do people say they care about personality but still decide in 0.3 seconds based on the first photo?

No judgment either way, just trying to understand the rules of the game I'm clearly losing.

At this point I'd even appreciate a rejection just to confirm I exist in the algorithm.