u/BravoTimes

Hello to my new friends! Thanks so much for your help on my last post! https://www.reddit.com/r/PMDDpartners/s/X5ql0YiG7m

You all really gave amazing advice and knowing others deal with PMDD in their partners and have similar patterns really helped me a lot during a hard time.

I was curious, she’s reposted a lot of social media kind of alluding to like.. Idk.. waiting for a text or call from me but I don’t get it , idk if I’m reading into it and why I would be the one she is the one that broke up with me during her PMDD. But I also don’t know if it’s over.

So the PMDD showed up Wednesday around mid day, maybe late Wednesday.

Thursday she was being rude and up and down, Friday morning she broke up with me.

So that’s 5 almost 6 full days now. Idk how long until the “ I forgot the phrase “ comes about and her emotions stabilize ( hormones etc. )

But, do I reach out with something just gentle today? Wait a day? I do want to reach out and try to fix this, and if things are fixed I can then slowly wait for her to be in the right mindset so we can go and proactively get whatever medication she needs.

I don’t know what to do. I’m constantly anxious. I’m sorry for the constant need for help / advice, I’m
Just… depressed would be the best way to put it. I’m not over her, she’s not over me, I’m almost 100% sure, it wouldn’t make sense, it’s the same pattern and the switch just…. Would be so… random.

Anyways.

Let me know if you would kindly your advice! On what I should do? When to reach out, how to and how long I should wait, should it be period time soon I think her period starts today or yesterday. One of the two. Maybe tomorrow but pretty sure today.

Found this community and I figured I’d ask what to do.

My girlfriend has PMDD, for the second month in a row she’s broken up with me the week before her period, last month everything was good right after the few days pre-period passed and back to loving again.

3 days ago we were talking about our future our love . Then like a switch 24 hours later ( her period is in like 2 days ) she went.. “ I feel off “ then complaining about relationship, then yesterday on phone said she doesn’t want to see me in person and needs space and then today I missed her calls at 9 am. She called to break up, she sent a text saying she can’t drag it on and has to end thing and would appreciate me respecting her space.

I said “ I understand and respect your decision . “

I didn’t want to fight or anything because it happened literally last month the same exact pattern and I don’t know what to do. Should I just wait it out a few days for her period to come and maybe PMDD to pass? because last time she contacted me after a few days crying and saying she was sorry and spiraling and wanted to see me. We were all back to even better than ever. like she’s totally in love with me.

But now.. same shit different month, so it’s just weird. I don’t know how to handle this.

What is the best advice? Thank you! This is so weird it’s emotional whiplash she always turns off location, blocks me on socials, and breaks up, then contacts me saying she wants to talk. Idk what she even wanted to say on the phone, I guess probably just the same so best I just didn’t get the call. I hope it isn’t the end, it would make no sense.

Also oddly yesterday she wakes up and says she wants to out of nowhere move to another state ,. Like… out of nowhere. So I knew something was off.

How do I handle this delicately? I’m not going to contact her until she contacts me or until like a week passes if like she doesn’t is that the right approach ? I love her and she loves me. I don’t get it at all.

My GF has PMDD.
Last month she was about to break up with me, pretty much out of nowhere. Then apologized about 3-4 days later after I just gave her space. Stopped responding to her.

Anyways, we spoke and I just told her like, I don’t mind I love her, I’ll always be here and gladly would stay , she was worried I may not want to deal with a girlfriend with PMDD.

Yesterday about the same amount of days before her time of month, same story.
Today she was complaining about things I did , which honestly, I didn’t even really do but, I first was like wait, that’s not what I meant , said sorry, idk why because it wasn’t like.. anything to apologize for.

But anyways, I made that mistake told
Her I’ll give her space when it clicked it’s that time of
The month.

She started the day texting me saying she wants to move to another state … out of nowhere. She doesn’t, but she’s saying that.

4 days ago, we were fine , like we talk about our future and forever then PMDD comes and idk do I even mention that it’s maybe PMDD ( probably shouldn’t right? )

So, I haven’t texted her since I spoke ti her on the phone, she didn’t even want to see me in person, I was with her last night, after she went to take care of her work, she decided not to come over and was really cold , said goodnight I said goodnight I love you, she didn’t respond, which isn’t her.

Anyways,
During her PMDD, should I just avoid communicating until she does.

If she contacts me in the next 1-3 days while the PMDD is still active, should I ask her to just , maybe discuss this in a week.

She hasn’t turned her location off or blocked me
On socials like she did last time which tells me she’s not like… breaking up with me again 3 times in 3 days… I think just pmdd and overwhelmed.

How should I best handle my love of my life when PMDD comes, I don’t want to invade her space, so I’m not texting her as I said I’m going to give her space after the very cold call we had earlier.

Anyone with any advice that knows about PMDD. Any advice helps! Thank you! 🙏