Am I being unreasonable? I Don’t want to seem like a grim colleague
We had an ex colleague saying she wanted to meet up for lunch, coffee etc. on that day all our team agreed to meet up and I felt kinda pressured to join. She is really nice and was a good person to work with.
But whenever someone leaves the team, I kind of take it as a goodbye and good luck. I personally wouldn’t want to meet up with my old team as a whole to talk about work as life moves on. There are people I have worked with who I am still friends with, but I never would have asked the team to join us when catching up.
In these situations is it OK to say you will not be joining but you wish them all the best?