
my understanding of flair ups
Hi ladies and gentlemen, hope you are all doing well on your rode to recovery. I am posting this to share my understanding of flair ups, what I have learned in my journey and some resources that maybe helpful to you all.
I have been dealing with a flair up since mid march 2026. I felt much better in end of April and still struggling with some nervous system dysfunction currently but overall I feel like myself again pre flair up. It was a very nerve racking experience (no pun intended) but all the symptoms came back, ED, pain in the pelvic area, urinary, sleep and catastrophizing but maybe at a 50% intensity. Overall I feel like flare-ups are not 100% bad. They are necessary and somewhat beneficial. I highly recommend listening to these 3 segments by Karl Monahan. He is a specialist who deals with this specific issue and his story is very inspiring. I have watched all of his videos and some of his videos i watch daily as motivation and reassurance.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6CampG0u0TA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26DIRL3B7j8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qoGB1SIGk2k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmJQnYeJ8es&t=2s
In summary - flare ups are inevitable because you have to at some point re train your body and brain to do normal activity again. For me it was masterbation. At first even the thought of masterbating or any slight arousal would send my nervous system into high alert. I couldn't even look at a picture of a women in bikini. Currently every time i masterbate i feel the tightness and the nervous system in the background but its very much in the background. I don't think my masterbation is back to normal but its funcitonal. The strange the is that after I finish, my pain is gone and i feel 0 nervous system activity, basically i feel normal. Needless to say the flare up happened when i masterbated 5x that day back in march and i may have clenched too hard. But if i didn't have that flare up how would i know there is still something wrong? I can't just keep living life not doing any of the acitivities that I enjoy and not pushing myself to become normal, because at the end of the day we have to either strive to be normal or what is the point? remain broken forever? what other option do I have? with these mind body issues I believe its important to push the limits to retrain your mind that I am normal, nothing is wrong, and if your body says no something is, then maybe back off a bit and go a bit easy. But overall flare ups will happen and sometimes you need them to happen in order to progress. I hope this bit of information will help you in your journey as it has helped me. good luck all in your recovery.