u/Brilliant_Mud_8436

HI all,

I hope that you are well! I have started meditating recently and it all started with a 10 day retreat. I noticed on day 8 that I was unconsciously moving my eyes whilst doing the body scan, which creates a lot of strain - i end up with headaches and tension in my temple. AT some point, I could feel healing tingling sensations which washed over the pain. However, now that I am back at work, the strain caused by my morning meditation adds up to the one caused by staring at a computer. The meditation teacher suggested taking breaks regularly and focusing on my eyes at different moments of the body scan but it's not easy to do. She also mentioned that when my concentration would be better it might disappear - but i am under the impression that I get quite focused whilst meditating, so I'm not too sure.

Any tips on how to deal with that?

Hiya,

Has anyone experienced the same issue? I booked a seat reservation with the interrail online tool (eurostar + Lyria). As soon as I enter my payment information, the page goes back to the seat selection menu. I had received no information that the booking had been done, so I go back and book the seat again. Then, I receive two emails saying that I have two separate seat reservations! Wild!

I don't know what to do, as the double payment does not appear on my bank statement yet, so I can't challenge it with my bank. I wrote to interrail but I have a feeling that they won't care. Has anyone experienced the same thing and if yes, did you manage to cancel/ get a refund for one of the reservations?

Hi!

I am seeking advice on this forum because I feel a little lost. I have been with my partner for over a year. Emotionally, it's great, we are both very mature and transparent. He is religious and marriage + kids are things that he wants. I, on the other hand, had never considered the idea of having kids for myself and I am not religious. Additionally, his religion has constraints on how you raise kids. Most of them are aligned with my values, although some of them would need to be discussed - I would not want to put myself in a situation where I end up not being able to transmit to children parts of myself which are important.

We love each other dearly but we also do not want the other person to have to live with an unfair compromise. We are in the middle of difficult discussions. I have asked him to reflect on how important it is to him to be with someone who can for sure say yes to the project of having kids. I am willing and in the process of evaluating what I think and whether I want kids. I have realised that a lot of my reticence come from:

1. fears borne from heterosexual relationships that I have seen around me (men not lifting their weight in terms of mental load, chores etc). However, it is unfair of me to project things onto a relationship that might not present these signs.

2. being close friends with young mothers. I have just seen how hard that is and I have never had a glamorised view of pregnancy and childcare. I myself have been around children and even taught them. But I have realised that I had demonised these experiences, since I did not even focus on the positive aspects and why people actually do have kids.

3. I am career driven and I am worried. I don't like how society treats women, mothers particularly and parenthood more generally. I am still young, without a settled career yet but there is meaning in what I do, I am really good at what I do and I want to develop it - it's my tiny contribution to trying to make the world a better place.

4. both of us come from veeeery different cultural backgrounds. We have always been extremely empathetic, communicative and understanding with each other. He is very worried that this might cause tensions. Part of that is linked to points of potential tension we have identified in how we would like to raise kids (sex ed, dating...)

5. I feel pressure in making that decision because right now, it feels like either I say yes or we break up. We are both aware of this and taking a break to think independently from each other. It is also why I have asked him to reflect on his own stance, also. Again, I am really not set on having or not having kids. A few weeks is probably not enough to get answers, even if I am reflecting.

So, I wanted to know how you had come about thinking about maternity and parenthood? Whether it is something that you are drawn to or not?

For those of you who had a relationship at stake on this specific point, how did you deal with it?

I don't quite know how and where to start!

Hi! I am doing the colonoscopy tomorrow. I'm a little worried, because I was in an environment with no control over my food or what was in it during the three day no-residue period. It is also in the middle of a massive heat wave and I have been quite unwell, so not fully able to be as vigilant as usual. I ended up inadvertently eating a few pumpkin seeds (like 5), a few candied berries (dried grapes vibe), some of the pasta I had was semi-whole grain and an ice cream I had had a very small amount of cocoa seed in it. It's not a massive side step firm the original no residue thing I was prescribed but I am worried that it will affect the cleanliness of my colon. Has anyone experienced eating something they should not have? Did this lead to the doctor not seeing anything during the procedure?

Any reassurance would be appreciated. I will talk with the medical team tomorrow.

Thank you!