FAs who were completely cut off by someone they loved: what happened internally?
For those of you who identify as fearful-avoidant: have you ever been completely cut off by someone you loved after they became exhausted with the push-pull/ambivalence?
Especially if that person explicitly told you there would be no future reunion — not in a month, not in five years, not “when you're ready” — and then blocked you and genuinely moved on.
What did you experience afterward?
Did the finality make you realize what you had lost? Did you feel more activated, relieved, angry, numb, or some combination? Did you want to reach out even though you knew they didn't want contact?
And over time, did it motivate you to actually work on your patterns, or did you eventually just move on?
I'm especially interested in hearing from people who had previously relied on the idea of “maybe someday” and then had that possibility completely removed.
Please share your actual experience rather than what attachment theory says should happen. I'm genuinely curious about what it felt like from the FA side.