Recent discussion in not sure about
First post here, never thought I'd be here. How is the right place, please let me know if it isn't.
For some background, currently in a monogamous relationship for a while and have been living together for over a year now. Things started ok as far as intimacy goes, but after a while we started having less and less. This was because of the pain my partner was in that's been steadily getting worse. It was originally diagnosed as fibromyalgia, but now we're not sure and working with specialists to find out more.
The pain has gotten to a point that we haven't been very intimate in the last 9 months. I've been as supportive as I can as I absolutely know she can't control it and hates it too that we can't have sex. Despite that, it has been wearing on me more as time goes on.
During a long drive home from a doctor's appointment, we got on the subject of sex and the lack of it. It wasn't an argument or anything, just a discussion. She brought up bringing in another woman to the relationship. Not a random one, one we both like. It wouldn't be a fully open relationship and not a throuple either.
It would also be circumstantial. This depends on if something can be done that would allow us to be intimate again. She said that if the worst comes to pass, and she can't, she wants me to still be able to be fulfilled, but to be involved in a way that doesn't make it a secret or infidelity. She also wants it to be someone we both like, as in friendly terms.
I never considered the possibility as I've not done this before. I don't even know where we'd start trying to find someone who'd be interested in this kind of "relationship". I'm not even sure if I'm fully on board for this kind of situation yet. Does anyone have any advice?