partner became distant for over a week, unclear situation, no official breakup
tl;dr. i, 19F and 19M have been together for 2 months and things were initially healthy with good communication and reassurance during conflicts. but everything changed. About 1 week and 3 days ago, he suddenly became emotionally distant—slow replies turned into minimal communication and avoidance. we were supposedly to see each other, but when i asked him he just told me he wasn’t in the mood and that he was sorry. i told him that i do understand him because it seems to be a serious problem.
He is currently dealing with heavy family problems and appears overwhelmed, guilty, and emotionally drained. But i think its also leaning to he also seems insecure and conflicted about the relationship, which is reflected in his social media reposts about self-blame, emotional struggle, fear of opening up, and feeling like he’s not “good enough.”
Some of the reposts he shared were:
“I am not a good man and maybe I’ll never be but the sky knows that I try my hardest to be better in every way. That despite my sins and my lowest ways I try to be a better man than the one I was yesterday.”
“it’s either I say how I feel and mess things up or say nothing and let it mess me up instead”
“i was talking to this guy who kept mentioning their ex to me to the point that i started missing their ex too lol”
“hey twin the game doesn’t help anymore im running out of distractions twin idk what to do anymore”
some of the repost also shows like self blame and insecurity to my ex, which i told and reassured him last time especially when my ex contacted me.
but when he started to tell me whats wrong he told me directly something like:
“I think it’s best for us to stop because I’m not in the right mindset right now.”
“i dont want to hurt you”
“im not trying to affect our relationship, im just trying to protect you in the long run”
I’ve decided to stop messaging him for a couple of days to give space, and I’m planning to talk to him in person on the 21st (which is supposed to be our monthsary and also a day we have a minor exam but is a small thing). My plan is to approach him calmly and just ask for honesty and clarity—not to pressure him, just to understand where we really stand.
But I’m really scared because I don’t know:
if he still wants to fix things
if he already mentally checked out
or if I’m just holding onto something that’s already ending without being said
From my perspective, I still feel like there is love there and i know that he still cares for me, but I’m stuck in a waiting/uncertainty phase and it’s been emotionally draining. do you think we could still solve things out and talk about it? is it still fixable?