I love my in-laws, but the lack of privacy is affecting too much on my marriage
A bit of context. I live with my wife and my dog in an apartment. My in-laws live in the same building, in the apartment below.
This situation started a few years ago, when we moved in. Since the apartment where we live is from my wife’s family, the rent is super low.
However, we got married 6 months ago, and somehow the relationship with the in-laws has grown closer and closer, to the point that it has become a bit intrusive for me. Since they are my wife’s parents, she sees the relationship as natural. But I have another point of view.
Last week, my wife had a small surgical procedure and had to stay one night at the hospital. My in-laws have been staying with us all day since 8.30 am.
At night, I felt very tired. I suffer from an obsessive-compulsive disorder, and the effects of my medication are softer when night arrives. When that happened, my mother-in-law started asking me to leave because I looked tired and she could stay instead.
At that moment, I felt pissed off by the recurrent questions. My mother-in-law even said that my feet were inconveniently big to find shoes for, and asked me to leave because I felt tired. For me, that was over the top. I started to pick up my stuff, and they went to the cafeteria to grab something to eat.
My wife and I finally had a moment to talk. She felt so disappointed with me. Her parents were joining us, but I kicked them out with my reaction. I finally stayed with her, but we both felt sad and drained.
I am very scared. We are planning to have a kid, but that means they will be with us every moment. And although I love them, I feel anxious when I think about a situation like this happening again. I married my wife. But my in-laws are in our marriage. And I don’t know if I can stand this life.
What do you guys think about this situation?