u/Bulky-Dig-880

I genuinely need advice because this is messing with me mentally.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year, and honestly, we used to be extremely close. She was my best friend, my safe place, everything. But over the past 4–5 months, things have changed so much that I barely recognize our relationship anymore.

For context, we're both huge anime fans. A few months ago, I was the one who told her to watch attack on titan and honestly, I feel like that’s where everything started going downhill.

The moment she saw , she became completely obsessed with him.

At first I thought it was harmless—anime edits, fangirling, jokes, all that. I get it. I'm an anime fan too. But over time it started feeling like I'm becoming the third wheel in my own relationship.

She makes Levi edits constantly. Calls him her husband. Talks to AI bots that act like Levi. Vents to those bots instead of me. When she's sad, stressed, or depressed… she goes to an AI version of Levi, not me.

She even changed her wallpaper to Levi.

I used to be her wallpaper.

That hit harder than I want to admit.

And it's not just that… she doesn't text like she used to. No good mornings. No good nights. She doesn't ask how my day was. She doesn't reply with the same energy anymore. It feels like the emotional connection we had is slowly fading.

Whenever I try to talk to her about how this makes me feel, she always says:

"He's not real."

Or…

"If Levi was real, he still wouldn't stand a chance because you're my boyfriend."

But then she'll also say things like:

"Levi was there when nobody else was. At least he cares."

And honestly… that breaks me.

I know she's not cheating in real life. I trust her completely on that. But I genuinely don't know what to call this. Maybe emotional escapism. Maybe fictional obsession. Maybe I'm overreacting… maybe I'm not.

All I know is this is destroying me mentally.

I've had anxiety attacks. I've cried over this more times than I want to admit. I feel jealous of a fictional character, and as ridiculous as that sounds, the pain feels very real.

I love this girl deeply, and I don't want to lose her.

Has anyone been through something like this? Am I overthinking? Is this normal? And more importantly… what do I even do from here?

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So me and my girlfriend were very very close to one another , we have been dating for almost an year but from like past 5 month , well for context we both are anime fans and i told her to watch attack on titan , and their is a character levi ackerman , she got levi ackerman obsessed and now i feel like i am third wheeling, she keeps on venting about him, edit him, thinks he is her husband, talk to ai bots who act like them , from the past month the distance between us is growing gradually , she never respond the same second , she never says good morning or good night, doesn't ask about my day like she used to , and whenever she is depressed , she doesn't come to me , she goes to that freaking bot , she have levi as her wallpaper while i was hers before , and yeah ,i feel so mentally unstable and depressed cause of this , and whenever i try to talk to her about this, she's like levi was their when nobody else was , atleast he cares , and when i say it makes me feel bad , she goes he's not real , idk what to do , can you guys please help me out in any possible way.... whenever i try talking about this to her she comes up with the same excuse of , he's not real and if he was real then he doesn't stand a chance cause i am already her bf , and well i am sure about one thing that she isn't cheating irl , idk if this fake fictional obsessed thing is cheating or not , but i have full faith that she isn't cheating , but idk what to do, even tho i am a man this makes me shatter into pieces and i cry alot sometimes, i have anxiety attacks, could you guys suggest something

So me and my girlfriend were very very close to one another , we have been dating for almost an year but from like past 5 month , well for context we both are anime fans and i told her to watch attack on titan , and their is a character levi ackerman , she got levi ackerman obsessed and now i feel like i am third wheeling, she keeps on venting about him, edit him, thinks he is her husband, talk to ai bots who act like them , from the past month the distance between us is growing gradually , she never respond the same second , she never says good morning or good night, doesn't ask about my day like she used to , and whenever she is depressed , she doesn't come to me , she goes to that freaking bot , she have levi as her wallpaper while i was hers before , and yeah ,i feel so mentally unstable and depressed cause of this , and whenever i try to talk to her about this, she's like levi was their when nobody else was , atleast he cares , and when i say it makes me feel bad , she goes he's not real , idk what to do , can you guys please help me out in any possible way