He seems perfect, but some things aren't adding up.
Hi, I kinda need some advice.
I'm 26F and I met a 33M on Bumble. He seemed almost too nice to be true. Extremely charming, calm, mature, and just... harmless. He was visiting my city for work, but he's originally from Rajasthan and works from home.
We initially joked about meeting the same day, but he said no. We ended up talking the entire day, and I decided to meet him the next day before he left to go back home. I wasn't expecting anything serious. I was just going on a date to see how things went.
The date was actually really nice. We talked about a lot of things, got along well, and then he left. Since then, we've been talking on WhatsApp.
Now here's where it gets confusing.
Very early on, he started insisting that we should be in a relationship. I told him I can't do long-distance, so I said no. He brought it up again, and I eventually said, "Let's just see how it goes."
He's very sweet over text. He asks about my day, tells me about his, is very considerate, and honestly love bombs me a lot. but I've noticed a few things that feel weird. he has never called me. Every time I ask if I can call him, he either ignores it or somehow avoids answering. He also rarely talks after 8–9 pm because he says he sleeps early. He has timings set for everything. Sometimes he'll disappear for hours, then suddenly text saying sorry because something came up, and he'll tell me the whole story. The explanations sound believable, but this keeps happening. Individually, none of these things seem like a big deal. Maybe he really is just busy and has a routine. But together, something feels... off? I can't really explain it.
I don't know if I'm overthinking or if my gut is trying to tell me something. At this point, I'm thinking of telling him we should stop talking and just move on because I don't want to keep feeling confused this early on.
Am I reading too much into this, or does this seem a little suspicious to anyone else?