u/BunnyBoiBillyGoat

Haiii (˶ᵔᗜᵔ˶)ﾉﾞ

I’ve been very into Ouji cords and have been considering doing a Lolita cord too. However, my biggist fear about getting a dress is sizing. -_-

I’m usually a small in regular clothes, but in Ouji stuff I always end up as large because of my waist (33inches) and hips (39 inches)

However, I’m completely flat-chested (30 inches, no cup size); looking at dress measurements, my options are going for a large and having a 5-10 inches too-big bust size or sizing down and hoping my hips will fit. (_　_|||)

Any advice on types of dresses I should go for to avoid this, JSKs vs OPs etc.? Should I size up or down? Just do skirts? How can I style around a baggy front ( ╹ -╹)?

Thanks °❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･°❀⋆.ೃ࿔*:･

(PS I use he/him pronouns)

Hello, a few months ago I commissioned glittertale lolita for a coord, as I heard they are a reputable seller and they sell ouji fashion, which is what I was looking for. I've never commissioned clothing before, but I have commissioned large cosplay projects, so I'm wondering if some of my nervousness about their process is because of a lack of experience.

Ever since I began the commission process in early March, I have *always* needed to reach out to them for updates, and they never messaged me an update without me requesting one first. I try to space out my messages, as I'm aware of how long projects like these take, but I have yet to receive a timeline, any insight into their queue, or anything I'd expect for a long-term commission.

The only thing they seem to be doing is buying the fabric, which they said they would get done in early April, yet the next time I messaged them in May, they sent me a picture of fabric, asking what colour I'd like (which i had told them months ago) and when I searched the image, it was from an Etsy shop, so i assume they are still purchasing fabric. For context its been about 4 months since I paid.

I've seen posts about people who commissioned them about a year ago, saying that they work slowly (which I expected), but those people said they were told the reason for the delay by the shop owner. As it gets closer to my PayPal dispute window, I'm wondering if I should start asking for proof of work and maybe a refund(which, if they really haven't started, should be fine) or if I'm just being too anxious and this is the normal flow for fashion commissions.

Tl:DR

Is lack of communication and no timeline normal for Lolita commissions? Should I be worried/ should I request proof my order is being worked on before my paypal dispute window closes?

Hey, I've seen variations of this question usually answered with "just your portfolio matters / most courses won't add to your actual development / other designers don't find them impressive"

I totally get that, but my reasoning for a graphic design certificate is the express purpose of adding it to my resume. Maybe I'm being stupid but, in the current job market, I'm probably surrounded by a hundred other portfolios of similar quality to me, and many of them have BAs like me. So even certificate courses barely matter, I'm hoping it adds just a tiny little bit of bonus to the HR person who sees it. Any networking or portfolio-building would simply be a nice bonus.

TL:DR I'm looking for advice on which certificates are attractive to HR types, regardless of their actual content. Yes, I'm willing to waste money on that.

Thanks!