u/BurningTime13

5 year relationship, 27m, 28nb

Is every day, multiple times per day normal for men? Not cuming every time but to edge and self excite? Is it normal to look at sexually explicit photos of others while your partner is in the same room or home and available?

Im talking about looking at porn sites, hentai, nudogram, coomer, old photos from OF (he deleted his accounts after i found out and asked him to), my nudes, etc. Every day on multiple occasions throughout the day. I asked him to stop doing so while we are both home and I am awake (he negotiated me down from never when I am home regardless of if I'm awake on the basis that this is restrictive and controlling of his sexual health). He says this is normal porn consumption and not an addiction but he looks at it at work, at home, he gets up in the middle of the night to look at it and wank, while he (and i) are gaming, etc.​

I dont really use porn so I'm just trying to get a better understanding to self regulate and ensure I am approaching my partner fairly.

Title starts this off. Need general advice on bjs and just overall sex advice cause I wanna be #1 and blow his mind.

Bf told me recently that on average my bjs are 7/10s but two caveats. He then followed this up with he has been lying about how sexually satisfied he is to make me feel better or not discourage me. I want to reach 8s and 9s or just give and recieve better - who wouldn't.

1. He has to force himself to cum or really focus on finishing to cum during playtime and that I have never "made" him cum by force before. He claims only two sexual partners have ever "made" him cum by force before and thats the main thing he believes I should strive for to improve. If he doesn't focus then he just won't cum. If he doesn't focus the sensations don't feel like things to build to orgasm. I've never heard someone say that being forced to cum without focusing should be the norm rather than an outlier.
2. I ask for feedback and specifics for him as he is the first to ever state this and he gives me mixed feedback - dick is too sensitive then cannot feel anything, grip too hard/soft, suction not enough or too much, consistency in stroke, grip, and the slightest change up ruins it (main one), doesn't feel like anything or is too overwhelming, too much tip play, too much saliva / too little saliva, don't touch the balls but hold them, rhythm, basically the line is ever adapting and he believes I should just know. Ultimately, he ends up getting frustrated or embarrassed and says that some people just have natural talent for sex and I am not one of those people.

I am swallowing my pride here. But I've had exes who beg to fuck me again, I've had previous partners genuinely state I outwork others and blow the best, heck I've got the 5 minute cum out of my bf with glowing praise award.

I deep throat (swallow method and pulsating method), glide from the base to the tip, move my tongue, lick kiss suck, get the hands involved, wiggle my ass, make eye contact, moan, get the good saliva going, drink plenty of water, oj or saliva producing drinks, cup the balls, adjust the pressure to what he says is best, avoid too much tip action, get the frenulumn involved, every tip in and out of the book. Even working on practicing better rhythm (metronome practice, getting back into music, counting in my head). He'll tell me it feels like nothing, doesnt feel good or it doesnt build up.

edit: 4-5 if you need to know.