u/BurnsMontgomery

I was able to grade onto my school's law review. I did well in my legal writing class, and the Bluebook portion was only 10% of the grade, given the curve I'm not sure how much it even affected people.

I recently had my first round of cite checks and really strugled. I had to check about 15 citations, and each one took me roughly 1 to 1.5 hours. I know that's not where I need to be. What can I do to improve? I don't want to damage my reputaion, especially since cite checking seems like something you should be able to do just by following the directions, but the Bluebook is genuinely confusing to me.

Is there any practice material or resources you would reccomend? I want to stay on law review no matter what, so any advice is appreciated.

I need to talk through something that's been eating at me, because I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

Before my wife and I started dating, I was upfront with her about my retroactive jealousy. I'd struggled with it in past relationships, and I didn't think it was fair to bring someone into a relationship with me without them knowing that part of who I am first. She told me she understood, and that she'd already told me everything about her past. We've been together five years now, three dating and two married, and I believed her.

Since then, this has happened four separate times. Four times I've learned something about her past that she swore she'd already told me. I am not going to say what i have learned but it ranges from having a fling all the way to having a one night stand. This has happened over the course of our relationship and marriage.

**The first time**, I was devastated. But I told myself it was a genuine slip, an honest mistake, and I forgave her because I believed her.

**The second time**, the hurt turned into anger. I couldn't understand how the same thing could happen twice when she knew exactly what this does to me. I still forgave her and we moved on.

**The third time**, something triggered a memory in her and out came a piece of her past I had never heard before. I was furious. I told her flat out that if this ever happened again, I was done and we are over. She knew my condition. She knew what it cost me every single time. after this moment i would say i have always had resentment. i have always taken jabs at her for it. i have given her shit for it multiple times. she admits that she was wrong but she tells me that it does not matter anymore and we are happy (which we are).. blah blah blah.

**Forth time - past weekend**, She handed me her phone, and I found something from almost 8 years ago that she had never once mentioned. When I confronted her, she admitted she knew she'd been wrong because this is an issue that keeps popping up in our relationship. this was the tipping point.

Every time, it's the same explanation: an innocent mistake, it slipped her mind, she didn't think it mattered enough to say. And every time, I forgive her, because I love her. But I am so tired. I feel ashamed that I keep forgiving the same thing over and over, like I'm being made a fool of. I'm angry that this keeps happening at all. And underneath all of it, I'm scared, because I don't know what this means for us anymore. I honestly just stopped caring. To her defense, there are times when she has brought something up, she has told me on her own, and there are never signs of her ever having the intention of hiding it, so i genuinely do think that things like this slip her mind, but the fact that this has happened on multiple occasions now rubs me the wrong way now.

The hardest part is that I still love her. I'm not looking to leave. But I feel stuck, caught between wanting to protect this marriage and wanting to protect myself from being hurt like this again. I don't know how to hold both of those things at once, and I don't know how to move forward from here.

I need help understanding what to actually do with this. Both what to say to her, and how to make sense of what I'm feeling. right now i told her to just leave me alone for a week to get my headspace right.

i am going to be a 1L summer asscoiate and i have about 3 weeks of downtime. i want to know what i can do in the next 3 weeks that will better prepare me for the internship. i want to know the best way to spend these next 3 weeks - anything at all.

i don't want to hear 'just relax the summer is just a big party where you will be networking'. i understand that will be most of it, and of course, i will not miss any of those networking calls, coffees, lunches, dinners, events. i will go to all of them.

i want to know what i can do that will set me apart. i will be joining the m&a practice, so i will be brushing up on my finance (finance undergrad). anything helps. right now honestly i am just thinking about working on my typing (i am painfully slow typer) and Microsoft excel/word/outlook. just to give a bit of background i have 5 years of finance experience - so i would hold myself ahead a bit of my peers in terms of general office ediquite. i spoke to a partner and he said that AI is going to reduce the summer associate class in the next few years and it will help to know how to navigate that. as of right now i will be brushing up on finance, typing faster, learning word, and learning AI. please feel free to give me any advice.