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As the title stated. How do you keep on fighting and go on with life when life is kicking you in the nuts?

My dad has been sick for the past year, and last month the doctor told us he had to get a bypass surgery (open heart surgery), so we've been prepping for it. It's a constant bolak balik ke RS yang pastinya ga makan sedikit biaya. Yes, we are covered by BPJS, but a lot of cost untuk bolak balik etc juga sebenernya kan ga sedikit ya... Apa lagi its been almost a year. Like the past year, dia udh ada dirawat ~5 kali, with 2 major procedures (DSA dan kateter jantung). It's has shot a blow to my finances yang emg at the first place ga begitu baik krn dari awal kerja udh jd sandwich, and as an attempt to secure my future (krn dulu ga mrs bs pny future krn uang abis terus buat urusan rumah), ngambil KPR (yes, dumb, I know), and now im stuck in a looong term debt yang gede.

Last week, my mom found a lump in her breast. Also, there's a 10-50% of it being malignant. She's going to get it biopsied. The house yg gw ambil KPR itu kan gw sewain, been having problems with the tenant, banyak bgt dan the tenant is stressing ALL of us out (me, my parents, the agent, org estate). Akhirnya, dia break lease walaupun hrssnya 2 th so I need to cari a new tenant.

Career-wise, it just sucks too. The boss promised me a 15% increment, dikurang ke 10%, trs business is bad, so literally no increment, even tho ive been there for like 3 years, blm pernah naik at all. Sucks cus honestly, I'm just unhappy with this job. My boss is better these days, but tbh kayak dia juga lumayan abusive verbally even tho he's much better now. Work is work, i guess, hrs ditelen aja, it pays the bills even tho barely paying the bills these days :(

So currently life just sucks. Dealing with financial problems, parents health, :( I see the light cmn kayak jujur udh capek bgt untuk jalan ke light nya huhu :(

I feel so lonely and isolated tbh. I'm just so tired. Jadi ga fokus ngapa2in huhu pengennya just curl up in bed aja capek bgt :( at work im always distracted too kayak im just so scared all the time. its like having grief for my past, present and future at the same time. so much uncertainty.

How do i convince myself everything would be ok? How can i just go on and live my life? :(

Hi guys mau tanya dong, ini tuh modus baru apa bukan ya?

Jd kejadiannya tuh saya kan lagi menyewakan rumah pasang iklan di Facebook, lalu ada yang chat, ternyata dia lg cariin rumah buat bosnya trs suruh aku hub lewat WA.

Ok tuh aku hub lewat WA, katanya skrg reside di Singapore, mau pindah ke Indo untuk bisnis. Butuh tempat tinggal dekat Bandara. Baru ke Indo tgl 20an, mau viewing tgl 20. Udh ngomong ttg rumah tbtb tanya ttg personal, nanya udh makan atau belum, pokoknya ke arah personal. Which is... weird?

Trs yaudah aku blg jg ada bbrp org yg sudah atau mau viewing, paling nanti sistemnya cepet2an aja. Dia minta dikabarin kalau udah ada yang mau, krn dia berharapnya dia yg bs tempatin. Trs akhirnya kmrn dia viewing lewat WA video call gitu dan mau kabarin secepatnya jadi sewa atau engga.

But the weird thing is... It just seems odd? The personal detail yang dia share dan tbtb dari ngomong ttg rumah mau sewa dia steer the convo into more personal stuff gitu, nanya udh makan atau belum, pokoknya mengarah ke personal bgt, takut scam?

The info he shared about himself jg cukup questionable? Dia bilang dia RM di Bank di Singapore, tapi tinggalnya di Holland Village dan dapet mobil dr kantor which.. is it possible? doesn't seem like it adds up krn biasanya VP up yg dpt mobil dr kantor ga siii di SG. Pokoknya its very sus. Ini modus atau bkn sih? Ada yang pernah encounter?

Tktnya scam2 kayak love scam or mafia tanah or something. I'm just a girl who wants to rent out her house for moneeeey 😭 🙏🏻

Honestly I’ve just been really tired of surface-level conversations on dating apps. Everything feels so half-assed. I just want to actually talk to someone and genuinely get to know them.

Like… I want a real date where we can just sit and talk for hours. About random things, serious things, everything. Might sound a bit idealistic but whatever, just being honest.

About me:

My dad once said I’m his “most absurd child” and honestly… he’s right. I’ve done a lot of random things in life because I’m very “why not just try” type of person.

Growing up I sold random stuff to my friends, did small modeling gigs for pocket money, was on TV once, ran online shops, acted in my friend’s short film, did like 4 internships by my second year of college… and in 2024 I even tried selling eggs lol.

My life is basically just a series of side quests. Still figuring out the main quest… maybe looking for someone to build that with.

I’m very “let’s just do it” energy.

One of my closest friends now happened because I randomly agreed to go on a Singapore trip with her and her friends… even though I barely knew them. Met them like twice before the trip, no itinerary, but it turned out great and now she’s my ride or die.

I might sound chaotic but I’m actually a homebody. I like being at home, comfortable, with my people. Too much social interaction drains me.

I can talk a lot outside, but once I’m home I go completely quiet. So I think I’d get along better with someone a bit introverted… but talkative with their person. I like listening.

There’s more, but you can find out yourself 🙂