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So I finally went to my GP about this and she literally just told me to use Preparation H.

I've been using Preparation H. That's why I'm here. Did some reading and apparently prescription hemorrhoid cream works completely differently - targets the actual muscle tension rather than just sitting on the surface.

Which makes total sense why OTC hasn't worked. Is getting a prescription online actually legit or is it one of those things that sounds good but ends up being a scam?

31f. My friends text me before they buy things and my opinion is trusted. I've talked people into cuts that looked genuinely great and out of purchases they later would have hated. I believe i have a functional eye. Every single piece of advice I give lands better on my friends than anything I own.

My theory: when I look at my friends, I see them clearly. When I look at myself in a fitting room, I'm running a simultaneous audit of everything that isn't quite right. The filter is completely different. My friends get my actual taste; I get my internal critic.

The result is that my wardrobe is fine and everyone else's is better because of me. I'm a stylist for other people and a disaster for myself.

Curious whether other people have broken this and what actually shifted it.

Got feedback two weeks ago and I can't shake it.

I spent two years on this world. The history, the geography, the political structures, the magic. I thought I was weaving it naturally into the story. apparently I was just writing an encyclopedia with characters occasionally wandering through it.

The worst part is I reread the chapters after and they were right. it does read like a wikipedia article. I just couldn't see it before someone said it out loud.

I don't know how to write the world without explaining the world. And smh my head it's all connected like you can't understand why the character does what she does without understanding the political context, you can't understand the political context without the history, and suddenly I've written four paragraphs of backstory before anything happens.

how do y'all actually solve this!!???

Signed up for dating apps last week and I have no idea who this person is supposed to dress like

44f. Separated nine months ago. Single for the first time in twelve years. Friends think I'm ready, I probably agree. Downloaded the apps. Got matches. Made a plan for a first date.

Then I opened my wardrobe.

Everything in there is either something I wore when I was married or something I bought to get through the divorce. There is nothing for this. Nothing that reads "woman who has put herself back together and is open to something new."

I know the right outfit doesn't fix anything. I know that. But there's something real about the gap between what you're wearing and the story you're trying to tell. I feel like I'm showing up to the first chapter of a new book while dressed for the last one.

For anyone who navigated this, the first time dressing for yourself after, not for the marriage and not through the grief - what did that actually look like?