u/Busy-Cheesecake5459

I have a friend that went to jail for 10 months and was finally bonded out a week ago. I 100% believe that he is innocent and he will have his day in court. That aside, the 10 months he was in jail I stood by him as any good friend should do. I went to all his hearing, called him regularly, texted, video chatted, put money on his books, sent him cards. Besides his brother and daughter, I am one of only a handful of people who had any contact with him while he was in jail. His brother called me to let me know he was picking him up and he'd be home soon. I sent him a message on fb messenger and he sent back a short reply saying he'd catch up soon. I haven't heard from him since. He's been posting on facebook etc and I can see when he's on messenger. We've been friends for 40 years. I hate to be petty betty, but I am fuqing hurt. RIght before I came here to post, I blocked him on facebook. The saying is true, a friend in need is a friend indeed. I need an ULPT to get even.

TLDR: And the worst part were the two bathrooms. They were so dirty that I had to practically chisel the dried poop off the toilets. It took me about 4 hours to clean two bathrooms and vacuum the upstairs. There was so much gunk on the bathroom mirrors that I had to spray them with several different cleaners and let it soak on there before they would finally come clean. And there was so much stuff on the counters that you couldn't even see the top of them. I cleared everything off and there was so much dust and dirt that you could write your name in it. I would venture to say he has never cleaned them in the 4 years we have lived in this house.

Backstory: I have known my husband and his family since high school. Although we didn't start dating until about 12 years ago. We've been married almost 9 years. I knew he was messy, but always thought of him as being a clean person. He showers regularly, good dental hygiene, etc. He's always had a storage bedroom wherever he lived where he would store things and would use the excuse that he didn't have a garage or attic at the time to sort it out and store the items properly. I didn't think much of it until we built our forever home. It is a very large home for two people, 5 bedrooms and 5 bathrooms, but we have kids and grandkids (from previous marriages) and wanted the space for their visits.

Anyway, he works from home and his office is upstairs, 2 bathrooms, plus a media room, and a guest room he uses when he stays up late working or playing video games etc and doesn't want to wake me up. I rarely ever go upstairs because I don't want to bother him while he is working. *edited to add, I also don't go up there because I have a spinal injury from a car accident so stairs are a huge problem for me. I just had my second spinal surgery a couple of months ago. I am in physical therapy and just now able to slowly make it up and down the stairs.

I have always offered to clean the 2 bathrooms upstairs for him and vacuum etc, but he says he will take care of it. Well he recently had to have emergency surgery and I wanted to make sure he came home to a clean bedroom and bathrooms. I went upstairs and when I tell you I literally cried at what I saw, my God. I had no idea.

He has covered every square inch of the upstairs with junk. I mean junk. Stuff that has been in boxes for years is all over the place. You can't even see the top of his work desk because it is covered with random items he told me had gotten rid of a long time ago.

And the worst part were the two bathrooms. They were so dirty that I had to practically chisel the dried poop off the toilets. It took me about 4 hours to clean two bathrooms and vacuum the upstairs. There was so much gunk on the bathroom mirrors that I had to spray them with several different cleaners and let it soak on there before they would finally come clean. And there was so much stuff on the counters that you couldn't even see the top of them. I cleared everything off and there was so much dust and dirt that you could write your name in it. I would venture to say he has never cleaned them in the 4 years we have lived in this house.

The day he came home from the hospital, he went upstairs to settle in. We decided he would sleep in the guest room so that I wouldn't disturb him while he is recovering. I told him to text me if he needed anything and I would be checking in on him regularly. Anyway, I expected a thank you for cleaning upstairs and instead he was actually mad. I told him we would talk about it later as I didn't want to stress him out with him just getting home from the hospital. But I did tell him he needed to consider seeing a therapist because what I saw was not healthy.

He has been home 2 days now and every time I look at him all I can see is the poop caked toilets. I am beyond disgusted. I don't know how to get past this. I feel like I don't even know him now. I knew he was messy, but this is far beyond anything I could have ever imagined. I don't know how to help him see that living like that is not ok.

UPDATE- THEY JUST DELIVERED!

Has anyone had an issue with Temu's use of Speed x delivery service? I have lived in my home for 4 years. I've had a few misdeliveries but nothing that wasn't easily resolved. However, speed x now has 4 large packages of mine and are saying they can't deliver it because my address doesn't exist? My address hasn't changed and they've delivered to me many times. I reached out to Speed x customer service and to Temu customer service. Temu said they will investigate it. Nothing from speed x. So, I emailed speed x and told them I am going to file a police report for theft if they don't deliver my packages by Monday.