u/BusyTension724

What's your experience with keeping / nurturing friendships after moving abroad?

I myself (35F) have been away for nine years, and admittedly I haven't been the best at staying in touch. I've drifted away from most of my friends na nasa Pinas.

Every now and then I will message some of them para mangamusta or to schedule a video catch up, pero napapansin ko na ako lagi nag-iinitiate rin 😅 Pag di ako nagrreach out, wala rin mangyayari. But I suppose out of sight, out of mind?

Would appreciate hearing about everyone's experience, tips for maintaining long-distance relationships, and if you also find yourself being the initiator (para malaman ko kung ako lang ba problema hahaha).

Since moving to France 2 years ago for family reasons, my life has been in disarray. Not being fluent in the language, and having everything still be new, has thrown my life admin skills out of the window. I feel a little overwhelmed with everything and thus don’t want to do anything, even hobbies.

Before moving here I was organized; I made lists and made sure to check off at least big items… now I can’t even be bothered to make lists, and when I do, I have no motivation to do anything. I planned to make a podcast, because I did one before and it made me feel accomplished and happy… but now, seeing the stuff that needs to be done for it puts me off completely. All I want to do in my spare time is play video games.

To those who moved to a new country- maybe especially one where you weren’t fluent in the language - did you ever have the same lack of motivation? If so, how did you pull yourself together? Because I don’t know whether to try to take action or to ride this out until it passes.

35F if relevant.