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Sorry this is long. I'm(34F) I joined this subreddit because I believed I had limerence, but I'm not sure if it's limerence or just my ocd.
(I maladaptive daydream & I'm diagnosed ocd)
Possible 1st time: I was 26, we worked together & I became obsessed. He would look at me & I would smile uncontrollably, If he didn't show up to work, I had a horrible time & wanted to leave, I'd make any excuse to talk to him. I would also talk about him to everyone. We were friends on snap & I would watch his snaps over & over & I would get jealous of his gf. He broke up with her & we began dating after. We dated for 1.5 years until he moved back to his home town. When we began dating my obsession went away.
Possible 2nd time: at 30 I lived alone, worked from home & didn't have a car (totaled). Due to the isolation I got lonely so I became fixated on this guy I never dated but had a crush on in my teens. It was the biggest crush I ever had, the kind that gives you butterflies & u physical can't talk when they're around. He had a crush on me as well but I went away to college so nothing ever happened. I hadn't spoken to him since I was 20 but for some reason I became fixated on him. Stalking his social media, daydreaming of being in a relationship with him ect. That lasted close to a year until I stayed with my sister for a few month & got an in person job.
Possible 3rd time: at 32, I worked with this guy for 6 month before I became obsessed. I'd check the schedule to see when he worked, I'd make excuses to go to his area. Work was terrible without him. I thought about him day & night then we started dating & the obsession went away. He had a lot of trauma so I helped him get in a PTSD facility.
Possible 4th time: recent, at 34, this 20M started to give me signs. He would say he was leaving but then see me & would stay late talking. When I talked to him, he would smile uncontrollably, he'd tell me I look great & say I look really young. He would try to get us to be alone but I would shut it down. I started sexually fantasizing about him but I could never cross that line with how young he is. I found out a 23F liked him, so I decided to get them together. The only thing is I still checked the scheduled to see where he was. If he didn't come in, work was rough. I'd think about him constantly. The 23F told me he didn't like her, (they're friends) so I started giving her tips on how to captivate him & I would also bring her up in conversations with him & in 2 weeks they got together. It was bittersweet for me. I didn't spiral & I was happy but a bit jealous. However I knew this was the best outcome because it wasn't appropriate for me.
I never fell in love with my possible LO, & the obsession always went away if we started dating. Do these sound like Limerence?
I'll also add this post this to the OCD sureddit.