u/BuyAffectionate6901

AITA for telling my sister to sort herself out?

AITA for telling my sister to sort herself out? I (24f) asked my sister (20f) if she wanted to come over to hang out and help me with something yesterday. She said not then but today at 10ish would be good. Fast forward to today and I give her a call at 8ish to see if she can bring my package I had delivered to her house while I was out of town at the same time she comes over. She tells me she’s not coming over anymore because of gas prices.

Heres the thing - she does this all the time. Sets a day and time that works for her, then backs out last minute. Once in a while she’ll follow through and I really thought she would now cause I offered food. She said she only said yes because she was afraid ’something like this would happen’, and she’s afraid of saying no to anyone because they’d get upset.

AITA for telling her she needs to sort herself out and stop saying yes to things just because she‘s afraid of a reaction she fabricated? I said I understand gas prices which is why I knew I couldn’t go over to her place, and I would have understood if she said no. She told me I was unnecessarily upset over something small. I ended up telling her she needs to figure this out because its not fair to other people to have to change plans last minute because she guilt trips herself into saying yes to something she has no intentions of following through on, and that I have every right to be upset about how she handles it.

Im worried I may have been too harsh or that I’m in the wrong too since she hasn’t responded. AITA?

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u/BuyAffectionate6901 — 1 day ago

Type me based on pics of my room

I need to have a cleared space on my desk and coordinated decor at all times. Clutter literally drives me up a wall and I will never get anything done. I am a big reader and tend to gravitate towards blacks and browns, but love plants and greenery despite not being able to keep plants alive. I’m a Taurus, May baby specifically, and very artistic. I love low lights and soft things and I’m southern. I like a variety of music depending on my mood, ranging from classic rock to country to pop and folk. I junk journal and do photography too. I have a couple orange cats who love to cuddle and a large lab/hound mix.

I’ve been trying to find out more things about me coming out of a rough childhood, such as my personal aesthetic, my personality type, and more. I had a very codependent childhood as a parentified oldest sibling who subconsciously made their personality whatever my parents wanted so I’ve been growing into myself recently. Trying to put a description on what makes me happy and makes me feel like me has been the difficult part. I am having a hard time finding an exact match to what I feel like I am and it’s making it hard to find decor and inspiration.

u/BuyAffectionate6901 — 3 days ago