u/BwayBaby_Throwaway

Okay so I'm a Black girl (19f) and I do musical theatre at my college. This happened over the  the past few days and I still can't believe I have to even ask this but here we are.

So there's this white girl in the program. I'm gonna call her Brenda because I hate that name and fits how she acts. Me and Brenda aren't close but we're friendly enough, we chat before rehearsals and stuff. She's one of those people who thinks she's like super woke and makes it her whole personality. You know the type.

So after rehearsal one day Brenda pulls me aside looking all serious like she's about to tell me someone just died. She says she needs to talk to me about something important and that she's worried about my character. I'm standing there in my sweaty rehearsal clothes just wanting to go home and she's looking at me like I'm supposed to be scared or something. I ask her what she's talking about because I haven't done anything wrong. Then she drops this bomb that I should be ashamed that I'm friends with someone who's white supremacist leaning.

I literally laughed at her I said girl what the hell are you talking about. I don't hang out with anyone like that. I'm Black. Why the fuck would I be friends with a white supremacist? That makes zero sense.

She goes "your friend Connor." And I just stare at her.

Connor is this white guy I've known since middle school. We grew up in the same town, did community theatre together, went to the same high school, and now we're at the same college. He's genuinely one of the kindest people I know. He's a total theatre nerd like me and he's always been super supportive of me. He's been dating this girl Madison for like 8 months now and he's honestly the happiest I've ever seen him.

I tell Brenda she's lost her damn mind, Connor is not a white supremacist. And she explain why she thinks this and I swear to God I'm not making this up.

She says the reason Connor is white supremacist leaning is because he's white with dark hair and blue eyes and Madison is white with supposedly blue eyes. I say supposedly because I've seen Madison's Instagram and her eyes in pictures look anything from gray to light blueish green depending on the lighting. Sometimes they look straight up dark brown or hazel. But Brenda insists Madison has blue eyes and that's the important part apparently.

Brenda then tells me that if Connor and Madison stay together and have kids, they could have blonde haired blue eyed babies. And that's white supremacist leaning because they're basically trying to create the "ideal" white race or whatever eugenics nazi bullshit. She said I need to talk to Connor and make him stop the relationship because its my responsibility as his friend to not let him participate in eugenics.

I just stood there and I think my mouth was hanging wide open. I asked her if she heard herself talking. Like did those words really just come out of her mouth. She got all huffy and crossed her arms and said she thought I would understand because I'm Black and should be sensitive to these issues. Like she was doing me a favor by telling me this.

I said Brenda you are actually insane. You want me to tell my friend he can't date a girl because she might have blue eyes and they might have kids with blue eyes? Do you hear how that crazy sounds? She said I was being willfully ignorant and walked off in a huff.

Here's the thing about Connor though. I've known him since we were like 12. I've seen this man have crushes on all kinds of girls. He had a huge crush on this Indian girl in 8th grade and he was too shy to even talk to her. He dated a mixed girl for a few months junior year and he was so nervous about meeting her parents he made me practice what he was gonna say with him. His first girlfriend in high school was a white girl with brown hair and brown eyes who broke his heart and he listened to sad music for like two months straight. Like he has never had a type. He just likes who he likes. Madison just happens to be white with light eyes. Its not like he's out there with a checklist trying to find some blonde haired blue eyed girl to start a master race with. He likes Madison because she's funny and she's also into theatre and they have the same dumb sense of humor.

I told Brenda all of this. I said you don't know him like I do, he's not like that, he's literally dated every race under the sun at this point. She said that doesn't matter because the current relationship is the problem. I told her she was being ridiculous and walked away.

Now she's been texting me all summer. Like every few days I get a new message. She said I'm enabling white supremacy by not saying anything to Connor. She said I'm part of the problem. She said if I really cared about my community I would step up. A couple other people in the program have heard about it and some of them actually think Brenda has a point even if she went about it wrong. Which is crazy as fuck to me.

I'm not gonna tell my friend to break up with his girlfriend because they both got light eyes and might have light eyed kids. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life. And I definitely don't think I need to explain his whole dating history like I'm his defense attorney just to prove he's not a white supremacist. But Brenda keeps saying I'm turning a blind eye to eugenics and I should care more because of my own background and honestly I'm tired of trying to explain how the world works to her.

I really don't think this is a real problem, man.