u/C0c0nut_mi1k

It sounds like a dumb obvious question but it’s so draining working with people that are miserable and moaning about stuff every single shift, and I often join in on it which puts me in a bad mood. Surely this cant be the same everywhere?

I work as a chef and joined my current job 4 months ago with a fresh slate, but the cracks are apparent and I can see who has drama/issues with who. There’s always someone getting slagged off whether it’s the pot washer being lazy, then complains they have too much to do or its other people not cleaning up after themselves or picking up the slack which causes resentment in the team.

I’m genuinely fed up of moaning. Is there a world where the whole shift isn’t just b*tching and moaning? It’s the same energy everywhere I work (it’s not me starting it I promise).

Before going into work I set the intention of not getting involved, to just smile and nod. But when I see someone has gone home early and left a mess (again) the cycle continues.

God i’m tired 🥲

I haven’t had a female friend since university, i’m now 30. Everyone went their separate ways and I haven’t made a new friend since. Just me and my boyfriend of 4 years, and occasionally i’ll meet up with a uni friend twice a year, but she’s busy with a baby.

I’ve done Brazilian jiu jistu and powerlifting over the last few years, trying to meet more women but struggled to have anything happen (drinks/lunches/girls trips) on the outside of going to classes. I also work long hours as a chef in a kitchen full of men so unable to build friendships with any women there.

My mother has done crossfit for a few years and made a lot of good friendships there. They often all vacation together, women in their 40’s/50’s. Which makes me hopeful!

If you recently made a good friend in your thirties, where and how did it come about?